I was a teenager not so long ago, but even given that I had direct experience being a 16 yr. old girl, I really don’t understand SD16’s behavior this weekend concerning her b-day.

I posted a while ago about the year delayed cross country 9th grade graduation trip that MIL wanted to take SD15 on. Many problem with this trip: Just to recap, it was supposed to be for 9th grade graduation, but SD didn't graduate the 9th grade and grades have remained in a state of failure for the 10th grade, MIL "told" BF she was taking SD15 on the trip instead of "asking" what he thought/or if he approved, MIL also took SD15 out of school for the trip which I think is appalling if a kid is struggling in school.

We haven’t seen much of SD15 since a blow up over her failing the 9th grade last spring. She occasionally graces us with her presence for a few hours at Christmas or birthday’s. These events usually trigger a post from me, though I read ST everyday.

Surprise, Surprise. So SD showed up to BF's birthday party after all. Not that BF or I had ANY idea that she was going to show. Nope, we didn't know till we walked in the door at MIL/FIL house and there she was. BM had dropped her off. Why would ANYONE need to keep the bio-father and his partner in the loop on SD's schedule?!?!?!? That means we got to drive 45mins out of our way to take her home after that we were not planning on. The poor dog was dying to get out and go to the bathroom when we got home because I hadn't planned on us being so late at MIL.