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Submitted by Bradymom on Wed, 11/20/2013 - 11:50pm

This is gunna be a flat out racey subject. When stepkids are in home do you find yourself having sex:

1. The SAME as when they're not there.
2. MORE than when they're not there.
3. LESS because they're in home.
4. NO SEX because they're in home.
5. Haven't noticed.

and WHY do you think this is the case?

2. We have sex more. I think because the stress level high & I like to feel close. There have been times when we are divided on issues that this isn't the case, but... Typically it's more.

Bio mom broken promises.

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Submitted by Bradymom on Wed, 11/20/2013 - 11:31pm

Everytime we tell the step kids of a fun plan... They go to bio mom & the stepkids come back saying they are going to do it with her. Waterpark. Amusement park. Boat rental adventure. No big deal to us, it would be nice if they did something with them, as they just sit around doing nothing most of the time... we alter our plans bc they say they are doing it at bio moms and then low and behold time gets away and they don't do it & as far as us taking them... That ship has sailed.

Booger man

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Submitted by Bradymom on Tue, 11/19/2013 - 5:23pm

My stepkid wipes his boogers on the wall by his bed, behind a poster. Everytime he leaves I make beds, collect dirty clothes, pick up... Wipe boogers off the wall. For the love of Pete. Listen here step kid, I have way too many germ issue for you to start a booger collection at our house. Is this normal kid stuff? Bio kids don't do this, but I am the anti booger picker mom. Blah.

I'm suppose to tell you...

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Submitted by Bradymom on Tue, 11/19/2013 - 4:59pm

Bio mom is a liar. No nice way to put it. Most likely an undiagnosed personality disorder is to blame. Idk. She's taught the kids to lie. It's disgusting. DH is the most honest person I have ever met. We tell the kids always "be honest, be true & all good things will come to you" The history of lying is long & tiring. Just when we thought there was no hope... The kids have begun saying "Well we are suppose to tell you -----(a lie) but it's really ----- (the truth)" Finally a glimmer of hope.

Have times changed that much?

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Submitted by Bradymom on Sun, 11/17/2013 - 11:56am

My ex was investigated for 3 mo for molesting his stepkid. My attorney said there was NOTHING I could do bc it wasn't our kids... Seriously! His wife was court ordered to parenting classes. They had a baby, the baby tested for laxatives in system & the wife had depression following birth for months (currently) There's 3 separate social workers that come to their house for drop in weekly visits for at least a year & then to be determined. For the molestation & new concerns with the baby.

Winky face & weird texts & comments, oh my!

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Submitted by Bradymom on Sun, 11/17/2013 - 1:52am

I have never believed myself to be insecure or jealous. I've had a lot of conversations with friends & they've always commented how chill I am about things... With that said my DH ex, texts saying "we make beautiful kids" also says she prefers phone calls because she misses hearing his voice. She said that in front of her husband & me!!! She also uses the f'n winky face in texting all the freaking time! Now I said I'm not, by nature, a jealous person & I don't feel necessarily jealous, I feel more pissed!

Nesting hell...

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Submitted by Bradymom on Sun, 11/17/2013 - 1:09am

Has anyone done what is called "Nesting"

My ex & I were ordered to have the KIDS stay in our home we owned together & we rotated out week to week. We did this for a year while going to court. It was HELL my ex set up listening devices, left the house nasty, put bleach in my body wash (told kids not to use & when I broke out, one child said daddy put this in there!) also rigged a cabinet to fall on me, telling kids not to open it, that there was a surprise in there for mommy! HELL I SAY!

So has anyone done NESTING?

Say what?

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Submitted by Bradymom on Sat, 11/16/2013 - 4:58pm

My situation #2. DH situation #5.
How do you communicate???:

1. Depends on situation or convenience.
2. Only email or texts.
3. Mainly in person but some written.
4. Mainly on phone but some written.
5. Mainly texts but some verbal.

Sick of the games

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Submitted by Bradymom on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 10:12am

I try to do what's right. Try to love unconditionally. Try to give regardless of the reaction. I know these kids deal with the rejection of their bio mom if they don't walk the line. Walk the line with bio mom means, making her feel & it appear that she's the best, only & most loved parent. I'm growing weary of it, though & I'm reaching the point where I just want to say "We are doing nothing fun! Until you stop acting like you are forced to be here & stop these games!" The bio mom is remarried to a much much older man & they do 1-2 "fun activities" a YEAR.

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