I can relate to so many of the concerns expressed by others on this site, regarding step children. I am curious, however, to hear feedback regarding step parent relationships with the divorced spouse on other issues not related to the children. In other words, I came to the realization long ago, that nothing will ever change with the dynamics between my skids, my DW, my BS and myself. I just have to accept the fact that I will always be the one to bend way over backwards, make concessions, give in, and for the most part, bite my tongue, if I am to keep the peace.