My DH caters to my 13 year olds' EVERY need when she is visiting. It drives me absolutely insane. She is perfectly capable of these age appropriate things and I'm wondering what I should do (other than point it out which hasn't helped)....I think parents should provide (reasonable) natural consequences for your teens so they learn how to navigate through life. How will she feel the self confidence from doing things for herself if he's so quick to do them for her? I think he's making her social anxiety or other un-diagnosed mental disability worse.