I have been married to my husband for 11 years we have custody of my stepson since was 4 he is now 14. He is African American, adopted and in a white family, we do let him be in touch with his culture. I have treated him like my own his adoptive mother has not been in the picture at all so I have been the Mother figure. He is so disrespectful and to me and any other female (family and teachers) when he was 12 he got into some trouble at school with pot and almost got expelled!