Ok so I'm a BM in addition to being a SM, what I don't understand is why some of those BM's out there are SO fuckin insane!!! My BM tries to control my FDH in every way possible and attacks ME when she's pissed to get to FDH.... WTF?! I am far from the phsyco BM I could give a shit less what my ex does and I would never try to interfear in his current relationship. Why is it that some of these BM's are so fucking stuck on ruining their ex's lives??? Just curious.

DH and his ex have been wrangling over who should pay to replace SD's cell phone. DH and I purchased it, added her to our plan, and gave SD the phone for her last birthday. Not even 6 months later, BM's new baby (not DH's kid) gets a hold of the cell phone and sends it swimming in the toilet. I don't feel that SD is to blame because she had the phone in her own room. However, BM doesn't let her close her door because it upsets the baby (who is now two). So baby gets a hold of it while SD is at school and it's ruined.

Well, this is my first blog ever! I am so happy to have found this site. I have never felt more alone and confused as I do now. Who would have thought! It is so nice to know that I am not alone and there are others out there just like me. I have been reading blogs for two weeks now and want to thank all who recommended the book "Stepmonster"....Thank You! I am sure I will be a frequent flyer as there is a crazy BM in my picture and she is making my life a living hell. I have been deligated to the position of "Unpaid Nanny"....did I apply for this position? HHMMM?

:jawdrop: Besides many many other things that BM makes me SICK over...she really made my blood boil last night! My husband and I were working when she dropped SS11 off at our house (where he lives) with my mother who babysits for us. My daughter 10, was in the front yard when she pulled up and SS gets out of the car, his NASTY DISRESPECTFUL mother rolls her window down and THROWS her disgusting napkins in our front lawn! WHAT A PIG!!! I wish I could put on some boxing gloves and get in the ring with that SLOB!!!

I recently rescued my bride and our kid (my SS-18) from the SpermClan/IL homeland.

We had a great time roadtripping back to Tx. The stops were beautiful, how can you beat, Crater Lake, Eastern OR, Reno, Tahoe, VA City, the N rim of the Grand Canyon, Monument Valley and Four Corners?

Most notable were the laughs we had. The kid (my SS-18) kept his mom and I rolling with laughter and on the verge of tears. I kept the two of them rolling and my wife kept the kid and I in a state of laugh lock.

The weekend with the SS10 is drawing near. It is always emotionally charged. SS has serious issues in listening and responsablity. one year he "lost" his jacket 8 times. BM bought him a new jacket each time of course, but SS10 doesn't care because he is super spoiled. when he comes over and i ask him to do chores, nothing big, simple stuff like clean his room, pick up dishes, vacuum, put away his things, all stuff i have my BD5 do.

Back story: SS was full time with us from age 10 til almost 16. BM was not allowed overnight visitation because she's destitute, paid nothing and saw him irregularly, although she lives in the same town. SS had only one basic rule: do well in school. For that, he pretty much had everything with us. But SS couldn't be bothered to do a decent job. This spring SO finally completely cracked down when SS was averaging three Fs and two Ds. SS sincerely believes nobody has the right to curtail his freedom or to tell him anything, and ran to BM. BM took him in.

So SS10 apologized. It seemed like he actually meant it for once. He admitted that he said what he said out of anger, and he felt wrong saying it. I told him we're human, he's allowed to make mistakes, I just didn't appreciate him being two-faced. THe whole "I love you" to my face and something totally different behind my back.

I am living with a man who has two children from his former marriage so since we are not yet married I am not a stepmother (not technically). The girls are 5 and 6 and we get along very well, they both really like me, in fact the older child loves spending time with me and I with them, they are great kids. The ex doesn't really like me but she doesn't really know me. I did not break up their marriage, he was out of the house more than 2 years before I came along, either way I am not sure I would like a current girlfriend either if I looked at things from her point of view.

Wake up this morning and there is a note from SS (17). His “I” phone is broken. Ok, phones break.. I realize this. So you either turn it in or upgrade or whatever he and his mom want to do, because he is on her plan. Or DH will be stupid enough to just buy him one. And I am ok with that. We are totally separate monies.

Well, guess how the phone got broken? Come on. You will never guess.