I am so down on my marriage right now and am constantly only seeing dark at the end of the tunnel.
We have a kid of our own I have one and BF has 2 who he runs around constantly for.
I am tired of being the bitch because i want my husband to remember that he has a wife and
child as well as his other kids but he drops everything for them and forgets about us sitting
at home because he has to take them somewhere even if it is not his allocated weekend. I try to
just make my own plans but he doesnt notice anyway.

No, not on us, on BM.

With the discussions about children choosing which parent to live with at 12 or 14, I was wondering what would happen to BM if we ever did manage to get custody.

BM doesn't get CS.
BM doesn't get the federal child tax credit.
BM has to pay CS.

Making a couple of ASSumptions about BM's salary based on job type (administrative) and longitivity (been there just over a year) and her DH's salary (known, it's a public salary)...

How do I deal with my fiance's ex wife trying to get him arrested for anything and everything every single time we pick up or drop off the kids?! She does this in front of his two kids 4 and 5 and shes constantly cursing and yelling at him. I am new at this and need some advice....please!

I'm really sad today...very stressed at work too and that doesn't help with my sadness. I've just been thiking how much I long for a good relationship with BF daughter and how I am completely disrespected by her. I tried so hard at first and now I'm completely done...I am completely numb to her. I know what it is like to be totally disengaged now. When she told my son that we didn't belong in the family and weren't apart of it....that was the straw that broke the camel's back.

:? Hi I've been raising my step son since he was six months, he is now three and i still can't get attached and i find myself not really wanting to , i would really like his mom to take him. but she won't. i always feel bad, i think maybe these feelings will go away but after three years they haven't yet.i don't know what to do. i want to tell my husband, i have a couple times, but i think he hopes for me to get over it. i don't know i need help.

Hi all,

I guess you could say I am new here. I have been lurking for several months and finally joined a couple of months ago. I'm not really big in to blogging so I hope that isn't a daily requirement? lol. I will try to add some things as I go but, I'd rather spend my time here offering support and discussing step-parenting issues. Even if that means ranting and raving, (oops, I meant 'venting') LOL. I surely know how good venting can be, so totally no offense meant. I truly feel for each and every one here.

Hey - I am getting ready for a pot-luck supper tonight at our apartment community and I am bringing along a really good baked beans recipe that my husband got from his ex-girlfriend before me!

It's a really good recipe. It serves a lot of people and everyone really loves it. Just wanted to drop a note on the general topics in case anyone wanted to check it out!

Hope you enjoy it!

Looks like the honeymoon is over with for BM & now she is coming after DH once again for SD21 medical bills. Apparently SD21 couldnt find a way to pay for her medical bills. Story on medical bills is that SD21 wouldnt go to an approved doctor in our medical plan while away at college & now the medical bills are preventing SD21 from reentering college in a few weeks. SD21 has made no effort to get a job to pay for her own bills as a result of her ignorance to how our medical plan works.

So upset and confused right now I want to puke. I’ve been sitting at work seething all day listening to Nine Inch Nails and glaring at my wedding ring (off my hand sitting on the mouse pad… couldn’t stand the feel of it any more). I just don’t know what to do any more… it’s just two steps forward, thirty steps back and I’m getting so very tired.

SD is 11...since she is so close to 12, would it be worth it to go court now or wait until she is 12 and chooses? I'm worried that she will feel obligated to stay with her mother (mainly because BM is RUHLESS and will do anything--guilt trip, bribery, lying, etc to make sure she doens't live with us). I even suggested to my DH that we do 50/50 but he knows she wont' go for it since that would greatly reduce (or even remove) her CS.

Thoughts?