I ended things with my bf back in June because he had basically been telling me that nothing could change: his daughter was his first priority and he couldn't put our relationship first, BM would always have veto power, he didn't think there was anything wrong with the relationship with his mother, he had no plan to improve his financial situation/move out of his mother's house (long story but where I live BMs rule and this lazy BM who doesn't feel she has to work full time has drained this man via CS.

I say pseudo because I am not married to her father I am living with him. Here is the story.... He has 2 kids 5 and 6. They always loved me and I adore them. They are so sweet and good. I started dating him while he was in the process of divorce. I was not the cause of their divorce and I've only met her once. I don't blame her for not liking me as she didn't want the divorce but he has not been in the house for 5 years now. Just recently the youngest overheard her mother say she didn't like me. This would explain why she has been crying and acting up.

So allow me to explain. I will (possibly) be marrying a man in 13days who is wonderful, I love him with everything I have and he is a great man. However he has a huge heart that doesn't allow him to want to see the wrongs of his life... My FH has two biological children and plays father to several of his ex's children.

Fridge is amazingly sparkley clean, cleaned bottom oven, next I will move on to the air purifier and the water purifier.....right after I go to HD to get a metal blade for the roto-zip, if I can't get that mailbox post cut I'll have to go stand by the road on one leg with one arm extended pretending to be a mailbox lol.

Okay so friday when bf got home, I had our talk.. Which in order to write out everything I said, it would take up about 20 blogs

Ohhhh Crap...the mailbox project. Anyone know how to cut about 4" off a square metal post? Me neither.

I have been lurking on this forum for a while but I decided to join in. I am dating a guy that I love very much. His lifestyle just doesn't seem to fit with mine. I am perfectly happy seeing him apart from his life with his kids, though he is pushing for more. I guess I understand where he's coming from. Just not sure I have what it takes to blend into his life in that way.

Hoping that this will relieve some stress, and perhaps I can look back and see where I am being reasonable and unreasonable. Have you ever noticed that when you are actually in the middle of an 'emotional' situation....that any sense of reason totally eludes you? It's like when you need 'reason' the most....it runs like hell out the back door.

I love this and just had to share it. Someone had this as their response in another blog...

Annoying behaviors seem somewhat tolerable to me. Outright manipulative, disrespectful, spiteful, intentional, aggressive behaviors are something totally different.

That is the GREATEST way to describe my boyfriend's daughter. I just narrowed it down to "annoying" but this is perfect!

Part of me feels kinda bad for thinking this way, but I can't help it!

I'm new at this whole step-mom thing. We aren't actually married, but we live together. We get his daughter (who just turned 7) every other weekend. I've tried countless times to get my boyfriend to discipline his child, but have no success with it. In his mind, if he disciplines her, she won't want to come back. He sets no ground rules with her, whatever she wants she gets. I'm to my breaking point. The weekends we have her I try to find something to do just to get away. I sign up to work extra, go shopping, go out with friends, or just take a long drive.