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She's not my mother-in-law: She's my husband's mother.

boss_baby's picture

I chose to write on what happened to my husband and I because of step-in-laws. I hope my book can help you too:

Follow one woman’s story as she journeys through a torrent of deceptions and fabrications that kept a family divided. Even so, the stronger the innuendoes, for which she was unprepared, the mightier her faith in God and the tighter her bond with her husband. Together, they weathered the in-law storms against all odds. Learn how she coped and the advice she gives. She’s not my mother-in-law; she’s my husband’s mother is a story that must be told.

Trying to move on...but it is difficult

AlexandraL's picture

...but it is difficult as I still love my exbf. I ended things a few weeks ago because I cannot be happy in the current situation, which is complicated, perhaps not as much as some other situations, but still, this situation with BM, MIL, SD, and finances are not conducive to having the kind of relationship we both want.

This Morning

TheOtherMom's picture

I woke up this morning to the sound of bare feet slapping on the tile floors of the house and movement in my bed. I thought it was the dog ... but when I smelled kitty litter breath near my ear I realized SS9 had crawled in to bed and just wanted to hug.
These precious moments, these little wonders.
I shall miss them as he gets older Smile

After 4 days of agonising and composing my thoughts I talked to SD14.

Bojangles's picture

I know I know, several of my very welcome comments on my last post told me not to and to leave DH, BM and SD to it. But unfortunately I am a person who can never let it lie. I have had the benefit of a tremendously loving confiding family upbringing and I really struggle to just brush things under the carpet and pretend I have no involvement in what is happening. Plus at the end of the day I feel I’m an adult and she’s a child, and I have a role in how this child turns out,. Ultimately the important thing is that whatever is causing her to act out is addressed.

Everything is our fault

caya506's picture

Last night BM started flipping out on BF because I have been picking up/dropping SS3 off at preschool/daycare a few days a week. Well she picked SS up today and I guess he freaked out! He threw a fit in front of his teacher, screaming about how he didn't want to go with her, that he wanted to go to daddy's house. So now it is also somehow BF's fault that SS didn't want to go with her so she proceeded to text BF and tell him how SS hates her, and she should just leave SS with he and I to raise, and that its all our fault :? .

she signed the paperwork yay

happymostly's picture

well bm signed the paperwork this morning, so its not official till both the lawyers sign it and they have a final court date, but its coming up soon! when dh went to take back sd to bm and take them to a notary, dh noticed that bm had a hickey on her neck eww. and they went to sd's school to get her lunch schedule and meet her teachers. i bet the teachers thought he gave that to bm ugh i hope not! lol. Im just soo glad that the paperwork is signed now. Not sure how this is going to effect things with bm's new bf or FWB, or whatever he is.

Ragsmom's wisdom: "A father's work is from sun to sun, but a mother's work is never done"

Rags's picture

My mom was/is a SAHM/Homemaker. She is very good at it. Dad earned the income, mom made the home and is the glue that holds the Rags clan together. My baby bro and I, our wifes and the 4 grand kids, all bonded by mom's incredible love and SAHM skill.

This phrase is not a mom original but she repeated it regularly while we were growing up.

SAHMs provide priceless value to their children, their spouses and their families. The good ones also provide priceless value to their communities.

Is it wrong that I don't feel bad or guilty

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Ok, so a little background first (in case you don't know). Dh and I have been married 6 years. He has ss12 from his high school gf. They never married and actually broke up before ss was even 2. Together we have 3 kids- DD1 (5), DS (almost 4), and DD2 (5mths). When we first got married ss came over eow. He had his own room. I did the 'good' stepmom thing- spent time alone with him, triedto make nice with bm, buy bm Christmas present 'from ss, helped with pickups/dropoffs, attended ss school events with dh...blah blah. Then after DS was born things went downhill.

What is your opinion?

Kteach109's picture

Hi all! I need your opinions on something. DH and BM do not have any type of court documents saying who has custody or anything about child support. Well, like I said in my last entry, SD is going back with her mom and DH is going to start paying her again (which I think is the real reason she wants SD back in the first place but that is a different story). In addition to paying her $100 a week he also provides the insurance/health care, ALL the transportation (it is an hour one way to get her) and he just spent over $100 on new clothes for her because her mom can't afford it.

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