I have been lurking on this forum for a while but I decided to join in. I am dating a guy that I love very much. His lifestyle just doesn't seem to fit with mine. I am perfectly happy seeing him apart from his life with his kids, though he is pushing for more. I guess I understand where he's coming from. Just not sure I have what it takes to blend into his life in that way.

Hoping that this will relieve some stress, and perhaps I can look back and see where I am being reasonable and unreasonable. Have you ever noticed that when you are actually in the middle of an 'emotional' situation....that any sense of reason totally eludes you? It's like when you need 'reason' the most....it runs like hell out the back door.

I love this and just had to share it. Someone had this as their response in another blog...

Annoying behaviors seem somewhat tolerable to me. Outright manipulative, disrespectful, spiteful, intentional, aggressive behaviors are something totally different.

That is the GREATEST way to describe my boyfriend's daughter. I just narrowed it down to "annoying" but this is perfect!

Part of me feels kinda bad for thinking this way, but I can't help it!

I'm new at this whole step-mom thing. We aren't actually married, but we live together. We get his daughter (who just turned 7) every other weekend. I've tried countless times to get my boyfriend to discipline his child, but have no success with it. In his mind, if he disciplines her, she won't want to come back. He sets no ground rules with her, whatever she wants she gets. I'm to my breaking point. The weekends we have her I try to find something to do just to get away. I sign up to work extra, go shopping, go out with friends, or just take a long drive.

SO said no, SS can't come pick up his bed and the rest of the stuff he left here this weekend or next weekend.

SO didn't tell BM why - but it's because I'm having surgery at 7:30 Monday morning.

Awesome of SO to realize and enforce that I would want to relax as much as possible this weekend (beforehand), and next weekend I'll still be recovering. And awesome of him to protect my privacy about it.

BM probably thinks SO is just trying to be a dick, since he didn't tell her why.

I am home by myself, husband is at work, it's been so peaceful since SS has been gone. I cleaned the house today and a lot of thoughts popped in my head.The one that struck me the most was I don't miss cleaning the urine up off the floor in the bathroom. I know men dribble and can get stuff on the seat or near the toilet, I'm not talking about the normal dribbling I'm talking about SS out and out pissing on the floor no where near the toilet because he was mad about something. This is something animals do to mark their space.

I had to work today. I usually only work until 12 but I think I'll work a full day today. BF daughter took my phone last night and didn't return it even after I asked her. So I have no phone to let BF know that I am working all day (guess I could call from work but nahhhhh). I usually text him once a day that I love him too. I wonder if he will even miss that or even notice that I don't come home at 12.

So my stepson is almost 13 (i've been his stepmom for 9 years, since he was 4) Him and his mother or BM have always had a very stressful relationship. And it's gotten physical quite a few times with her abusing him & now a teenager him abusing her back. She has bullied him the entire time i've been around & i think he's just conditioned to the craziness.

Just read a post where a lady was saying she and her fiance are now really on the same page. I say this all the time to my DH. We need to be on the same page about SD13. Finally while she was gone for 2 wks. he started agreeing with me about everything and said YES we ARE going to be on the same page when she returns and things are going to be good! THEN, after 2 fun weeks together (yes, and more s e x than usual) 2 nights before SD13 returns DH turns a total 180! Goes back on everything we agreed on and made it all 100 times worse!

I married my husband a year and a half ago, making me a stepmom to two great kids (13yr and 12yr.) We dated for 4 1/2years before marrying so I had ample time to develop a relationship with the kids. Their mother has residential custody of the kids during school and my husband has residential custody in the summer. My husband's occupation requires a lot of moving on our part. He has gone to court to ensure his parents have equal rights to his visitation time when we are unable to be present.