my son has gone to dads after ive done everything for him every one tells me that this happens in brokern families and he will be back any one else been like this hes getting all his own way at dads at present

Here goes another novel. Here's the condensed version of my story although I don't know how much I can really shorten it. My kids lived with me from the ages of 2 and 3 to the ages of 9 and 10(first 4-5 years just with me, and the next 2-3 with me and my current wife). Just recently they both decided to move in with their mother, and I told them I didn't have a problem with that because she's gotten her life pretty straightened out since we split. So anyway, they wanted to live with her, so I told them o.k.

I am a therapist - so I know what is happening. But I feel powerless over it. My own childhood was less than pleasant, not Children's Services involement abusive, but that "self-esteem distroying" kind of childhood. I have raised my own boys successfully, and they are healthy, pretty much well adjusted young men. Now I am starting over with a little girl - and my own crap is getting triggered all over the place.

I didn't get into this step-parenting role very gracefully. There was a lot of secrecy in the beginning, which probably didn't help the relationship with Baby-Mama (BM). But, now its been 4 years into the relationship - 1 of us living together and the issues haven't changed. BM and I have yet to even have a conversation. I don't pick up the kid. I don't answer the door when BM arrives to pick her up. Baby-Daddy (BD) is away for two weeks and the Grandmother is going to pick her up to bring her over. This is partly my fault, I don't want to deal with the drama.

So in the last few months.. BM has cut her hair to the same length as mine.. After BF told her that she dressed like a scank and needed to dress more appropriatly, I swear BM is wearing the same kind of clothes I do Then she just recently dyed her hair.. The same color as mine!

WTF is wrong with people. I know I find myself asking this question a lot, but seriously.... what is wrong with people?

Here DH and I are raising SD21s children, and their parents have the nerve to get shitty b/c I woke them up this morning? Really? You CAN'T be serious, can you? Wow! Takes nerve, real nerve!

I was talking to dh on the phone (been a month and half that ive been apart from him Im trying to find a job where he moved to and its been almost impossible! very frustrating but anyways) and sd is there. Bm actually let him have her for a weekend thats not technically his, cuz bm is 'sick'. But him and bm have been on good talking terms this past week, thats a shocker.

well, my step daughter age 6, hasn't goted any better and we had a appt. for her today but they wouldn't see her cuz of the inshurince. im ready to pull my hair out, i sat her down last night and tryed to talk to her about why she's acting like this and when i asked her about she she just said "beacause its awsome to hurt people" any time she's asked how she would like it if some one did it to her or something like that she just says "not fun". i'm clueless as of what to do anymore and she's comein between my husbend and i. HELP!

Hello all,

I moved out of my home that I shared with hubby and two stepdaughters. It was was to much chaos! A lot of verbal abuse from hubby. A lot of hateful actions from youngest stepdaughter.

The place I moved to is sooooo peaceful. I feel like I am on vacation. No one is talking down to me, yelling at me or being disrespectful. This is probably the best thing I have done for myself in quite a while.

If you feel like you are living in hell because of the contant drama, arguments and or abuse - find help, support or get out.

What does evey think.

Who gets what? Do Skids get equal shares to Bios? How is it distributed between yours/mine/ours?

Some very close family friends had a challenge with this. The wife died after ~35 years of marriage. Several years later her surviving spouse married the mother of their oldest child's wife who was also widow'd.

Our family friends had two children, who were ~28 (married to his future step sister) and 23 (unmarried at the time) when their mom died. The new wife (and oldest child's MIL) had 6.