You are here

WOW.....just.....WOW

WifeVersion2.0's picture

DH and his ex have been wrangling over who should pay to replace SD's cell phone. DH and I purchased it, added her to our plan, and gave SD the phone for her last birthday. Not even 6 months later, BM's new baby (not DH's kid) gets a hold of the cell phone and sends it swimming in the toilet. I don't feel that SD is to blame because she had the phone in her own room. However, BM doesn't let her close her door because it upsets the baby (who is now two). So baby gets a hold of it while SD is at school and it's ruined.

So, DH finally convinces BM that she is responsible for the cost of replacing the phone. Explaining that if the Skids brought something similar over here and one of my kids broke it, then we would be responsible for replacing it.

She calls back a couple of hours later and tells DH that she doesn't have the money to buy the phone but she will buy us $50 worth of groceries if we will purchase the phone. She doesn't work (willingly) and receives food stamps for the kids even though DH pays almost $1,000/month in CS plus whatever amount she gets from her baby's daddy.

Does anyone else see something wrong with this? I told DH NO WAY. I was kind of shocked that he didn't have the same response. That just seems soooooo wrong to me.

Comments

leogirl819's picture

Oh wow...I definatley think she should replace the phone, but doesnt seem like she will. This really sucks but if shes on your plan, she will need a new one and Im sure you two will be the ones paying for it. perhaps your SD could keep it somewhere where the baby can't get a hold of it. Which really sucks since its in her room... but how old is she? She should be able to shut her door!! Maybe she can keep it tucked away in a drawer while at school...

Hope it all works out...

Rags's picture

Yes I see something wrong with the worthless waste of skin entitlement breeder BM using fraudulently acquired tax payer resources to bribe your DH to pay for something that BM should pay for.

Since you asked.

Since SD is a teen, I recommend that you buy the replacement warranty coverage when you replace the phone. Also, you can buy a phone on e-bay very cheaply and get it activated with your SDs old number through you carrier.

Best regards,

hardatwork's picture

what a piece of work she is. first off, the CS is meant for the childrens things. not hers. and if she cant manage to replace a phone she should have more control of her 2 year old. when a 2 year old controls wether or not you can close doors in your own house somethings is wrong. not to mention food stamps are for providing food for her family not to bribe other people to get things. a misuse of the system. if she can spare the 50 in food stamps she should certainly be able to spare the actual money. why don't DH see these things. i suppose because it wasnt SD fault and its hard to see someone get punished, especially a child, because of something an adult who should be looking after them is doing wrong.

Timetogiveup's picture

There is NOTHING that irks me more than those who work the system. I can't tell you how many times I have been approached in parking lots by the "entitled" offering to do my grocery shopping on their card (Food Stamps) for 50 cents on the dollar. Pisses me off to no end....I report these people to the store's manager. We work hard for those who don't so they can EAT. Apparently she doesn't really need to be on the program if she can give 50 bucks worth of food for a cell phone!!! No one is "entitled" to a cell phone.....maybe she should use a pay phone for a while or better yet if the "entitled one" has a computer...for 40 bucks she can get MagicJack and a years worth of service!!

WifeVersion2.0's picture

Well I'm glad it wasn't just me. Smile

SD is almost 13, I certainly think she is old enough to take care of a cell phone. If she had been the one that broke it or lost it then I wouldn't be too concerned about replacing it. We do have a back-up phone that is my old one that we have decided to give to SD. It won't cost anyone anything but it wasn't my first option and it's not as nice of a phone as what we had given to SD.

The toddler runs that house. Everything and everyone must cater to her. It's been an ongoing issue as this isn't the first thing that SD has lost due to the baby getting a hold of it. BM has taken away her nail polish, beads for making jewelry, and paints/markers all because SD didn't keep it up high enough that baby couldn't get it. In my opinion it's not SD's job to baby-proof her room. She should be able to shut her door. They can't even shut their doors when they are home to read or do homework. Unfortunately BM has decided it's just easier to keep the baby happy than actually give her boundaries and rules.

skylarksms's picture

That's definitely food stamp fraud. I can't believe she would even offer that to you guys.