Just wondering how many of you REALLY think you'd totally swear off men with kids if things ended with your current men.

One other thing...isn't it ironic that there are only two men really on this website? I know women are more communicative by nature, but it really makes me wonder if most of the problems with stepfamilies come from the man side of things...the crazy BMs we all have, etc.

My instinctual reaction would be to scream and yell because I was so furious when I found out. But I know that isn't the right way to get my dh to see the bigger picture.

I just LOVE how SD15 can't be bothered to lift a finger to help me for 3 weeks while DH is gone for work and I am sick as a dog taking care of the house and the kids by myself. I made DH aware of this while he was gone, hoping he would have a chat with her when he got back...HAHA!! What was I thinking?! Not only did he not say a word to her about it, but today, I apparently gave SD15 the "dirtiest look DH has ever seen" and he "gets on to me" about it in front of SD15. I apologize to SD15, but I really didn't mean to give her any kind of look.

SD came again this weekend, it was her birthday on Friday and she wanted her present, of course!
It was DH's friends birthday yesterday, they grew up together and this friend has helped us out a great deal when we were looking at houses. We haven't seen him lately just due to being busy with work and family.
His wife invited us to come over for a "party". Where we live that usually involves a bon-fire and lots of alcohol. We thought we should at least go for a short time and took all 4 kids with us.

texting and calling over and over asking "are you happy" "sorry for what i did" etc... Fiance ignores except to tell her to call her kids and leave him alone....she continously texts about everything but the kids, and ignores any mention of the kids. Refuses to respond to anything about the kids. Whatever. We will be changing the cell numbers again and he will probably have to change his work number.

Hi everyone - I'm new here, but after reading some of the discussion posts, I seem to have found a kindship with so many of you that are struggling with similar problems.
Since it's my first post, I'll try to keep my story brief (difficult as it is a long one...)

Ok.. so my inlaws graciously take the skids for a couple of weeks each summer. This summer is no different, except, we no longer live near the skids. dh's job moved us 1700 miles away from them and my family.

The inlaws set up their visitation w/the ex like they have the past several summers. This summer, she has repeatedly changed the visitation time frame.. The problem?? Inlaws have arranged for their cousin they never get to see, to be there at the same time. Nice visit for all the kids.

I just wonder how many people on here are just scraping by financially d/t the first marriage/divorce. Money can be a huge issue in a first marriage, never mind a second. For me, I'd rather scrape together money all on my own minus the bullshit involved with CS, divorce debt, and effing emotional BS of an ex wife, a bratty kid or two, mother in laws, complex relationships that essentially make a man into a ball-less wonder. Are there any men with kids that are financially sound? I wonder if the financial part of the step relationships are so difficult that it alone makes things difficult.

Mrs R interviewed on the 4th and they made her an offer on the 5th.

She is hot, sexy, smart and EMPLOYED!!!!!!!!

Gotta LOVE that woman.

She has the most incredible work ethic.

If I had half of her work ethic I would be running the universe.

Now I have to sign off and go buy that incredible lady a HOUSE!

Just wanted to share.

Best regards,

We are getting married in January and really want the kids to part of the wedding or to at least attend. when we got engaged she said she was happy for us. But when it came to engagement party which was a close family and friends day time bbq she wouldn't let them attend. Stating that the kids have no interest in our wedding. than with held access for 6 weeks. SD5 was really sad about not attending and was difficult on her first visit after. Saying she thought we didn't love her.