I have read many stories on here of how financially strapped families are due to the amount of CS being paid...or of SM having to work extra to make sure CS is paid as well as to be able to afford things for their other children. Do you think that if DH were able to pay CS easily, meaning it had no effect on your lifestyle and you could still live comfortably with lots of extras that you would still feel resentful about paying CS?

I will explain more about my situation after hearing a few answers.

a friend of mine has a 19yr old SD who recently came to live with them.the dad bought the girl a car and my friend found her a job as well as helped with getting the girl enrolled in online college classes.
So basically the girl has been living there for free with no responsibilities other than paying her car insurance and she's supposed to be saving her money to prepare to move out in the next year or so.

I know this book has been recommended over and over again. EVERYONE that is going to be in a blended family that will have a Stepmother, should read it. I think Dad's should read this book before they start dating and I think women that are going to date a man with kids needs to read it before they get involved. I truly believe that if DH and I would have read this book a year ago, we may be ok now. It is a great book and will validate your feelings and also make you look at things a different way.

i have been putting my foot down and he doesnt exactly like it but i got a new job and am moving and i am scared to death.

I tend to daydream a lot and will make up some quite elaborate scenerios in my head that are often more entertaining than most T.V. shows...to me anyway The good ones can be very relaxing... Before anyone freaks out on me THIS IS JUST A NICE LITTLE FANTASY, NOT SOMETHING I ACTUALLY PLAN TO DO

If you have read my blogs I have completely given up on ss 22 who stole from me, broke into my home, called me names..etc. The last straw was when he told me to f*ck off about two months ago while living in my house. I compeltely disengaged from him and told DH that I want nothing to do with ss, to please not bring him to our house, don't ask my opinion about him, just leave me out of his life but DH doesn't seem to get it. He continuously asks me to do favors for this loser, such as giving him a ride, look over his resume, lend him money.... etc. WTF??? Is DH not getting the picture?

BM's mom is dying. She's 83, had another stroke, came home for a bit, and they just readmitted her today for congestive heart failure.

This woman was miserable to me, and hated me, and made sure that SD knew it. Also - the whole family had the "pack" vibe, and used to say nasty stuff to SD about me and make derisive comments about DH. Of course, she let DH mow her lawn and plow her driveway until BM got a new boyfriend, and I was in the picture... but until then.. he was great!

So BF who I dont get to spend near as much time with as I would like due to our conflicting work schedules asked me to come to his 15yo daughters soccer game this evening. I of course jumped on it to spend some time with him. We rode our bikes (Harleys) to the school watched the game and afterwards when he tried to talk to his daughter she said "shut up cant you see i am on the phone?" (i will get back to that in a moment)
Then we sat on our bikes because she didnt seem to have a ride and waited to make sure she got picked up. Eventually Wackjobs BF came and got her.

The past year my SS 13 who we see on the weekends has been trying to disengage himself from us. Recently it has gotten very bad. Of course we have rules and his mom doesn't have rules. We have had major issues with him being disrecpectful to us when he is at his mom's house. He will not return phone calls or sends rude texts. She won't return phone calls as well. He came home this past weekend stating he no longer has a good relationship with his dad, he wants to be at her house more..., and thinks his dad does not satisfied with him!

OK the first day of school and the sd that moved to the granmothers did not go to school,the next day the school calls wantin to know if they need to send papers to another school for her cause the kids at school are sayon that she is movi. Well i tell them i don't know she does not live in my home anymore,that she moves to her grandmothers. So her dad texts her and asked if she was goin to school and she tells him yes that she went, but he never call the school to make sure. do they not do roll call anymore are they forgot to count her there.