I just realized that when things don't get better, you, "yourself" must have to deal with the ex or stepchild. We can't always rely on our other half (spouse/BF) to the do the talking for us to straighten things out the way we want it to be. We need to stand up for ourselves and tell them straight in their face. I'm sick of having my husband talk to ex or stepson about my concerns, no more middle person. Ultimately the problem that needs to get fixed affects the whole family and YES I'm part of the family so I get to say what I need to say.

I just can't stand it when I have to share my husband with that wicked exwife. I know that they discuss issues about their son and all but I just can't stand that. I didn't realize at the beginning that this was going to affect me big time...with his exwife in the picture and the child ignoring me. Everytime I see my stepson, his actions remind me of HER! UGHHHH! How should I handle my feelings?

I just found this site while searching for anything that might help me deal with my BF's ex-wife and her recent tantrums. We have been together for four months, and it was only last week that she went crazy and twice put their sick almost 3 year old son in the car in the middle of the night so she could come scream at my BF for having a girl at his house. Since then she has been harassing my BF and he has started changing our routines to avoid any drama with her. And he has pretty much shut down emotionally with me. They have been divorced for nine months, and separated for two years.

Well, my boyfriend's daughter called Sunday afternoon and told her father about a counseling appointment for Monday at 6:30 p.m. (she called the week before with less than 15 minutes notice and my boyfriend wasn't able to go). He agreed to go to counseling with her (her and her biomom have been going for a few visits - at our suggestion the last time the daughter was out of control and manipulating everyone in her path). We then were told Monday afternoon that the daughter was coming to our house after school and spending the night.

Interfered with DH's phone call with the kids again last night.

DH is only allowed to call them within a 2-3 hour window each week. One hour on Tuesday and one hour on Thursday, between 5:15pm and 6:15 pm. Alternate weeks he can also call on Monday.

Anyway, we haven't seen the kids in 5 weeks as they have been on holiday, and phone contact has been patchy. (Cell phone out of range, not charged etc etc.)

Well, its been a rough start and a hard road so far. I met a wonderful man who swept me off my feet. He failed to mentioned he had a psycho ex wife. Or current wife when I met him. He has two children with her. We moved in together and a few weeks in I get a call from her saying she wanted to speak to him and that she was "his wife". Although she had no idea I was living there. Turns out they were not legally divorced. I found out when she filed for divorce. She wouldnt let him see the kids for about 5 mths then the court ordered him visitations every other weekend.

Were you all ever been in this situation when you see the exwife/biomom at times and you just got nothing to say to her! My daughter and stepson had a swim class together one summer and biomom would come when we don't have him to the classes and she and I would just sit there next to each other and have no conversation really, I just can't seem to talk to her or don't care to. I don't know why, I'm pretty much outgoing kinda person and even with strangers I can stir up something to say. One day she was talking about buying this brand name shirt for her son...

Well, it looks as if things are slowly starting to turn around and perhaps I'll get a little respite. Thankfully. The tax return made it to my old bank account, I just got it reopened just in the nick of time. The puppy is still not sleeping, don't know what's up with that. My husband is in a terrible mood....very nasty. I think he would kick the dog if he thought I wasn't looking. I declined having him take the dog out a 2nd time this morning. He had already stepped on the dog's back foot from not watching what he was doing and I didn't want any more vet bills.

Well, I am so glad that I've gotten away from those residential issues where the biomom is going to move into the neighborhood. I so remember that uncomfortable feeling where that wretch just kept showing up everywhere. It was truly nauseating.

BIOMOM is really on my nerves lately. she is doing her very best to ignore me and even to try to get sdaughter to be around just me less.

My mother in law just called me and biomom had called HER about the fact that she wasn't going to be able to pick stepdaughter up from daycare and that she wouldn't be able to take her to softball game. Why wouldn't she call stepdaughter's father, or me? Seems like she'd call one of us before her EX mother in law.