Torn in the middle...what to do?
Well, its been a rough start and a hard road so far. I met a wonderful man who swept me off my feet. He failed to mentioned he had a psycho ex wife. Or current wife when I met him. He has two children with her. We moved in together and a few weeks in I get a call from her saying she wanted to speak to him and that she was "his wife". Although she had no idea I was living there. Turns out they were not legally divorced. I found out when she filed for divorce. She wouldnt let him see the kids for about 5 mths then the court ordered him visitations every other weekend. It was great his kids are fantastic to be around. Their mom is another story. So all of a sudden they start calling each other and spending alot of time with each other. One night he went to return the children and he did not return for 4 hours. He would not take my calls and so I decided to call her to make sure he made it there. She hung up on me. I cried my eyes out not knowing if he was ok or not. He finally called me about 40 minutes after I called her phone and states he was having a discussion. A FOUR hour discussion huh with no phone priveldges. He slowly began insinuating he wanted me to move out. He kept sneeking out to see her and telling me he wa s at the gym or somewhere else. The calls were ridiculous. So I moved out and figured they were getting back together. So 3 mths after I move he comes back and says he's sorry and that he was just afraid that I wasnt trying to commit to him fully and that he would lose complete contact with his children. They are now divorced and we're trying to work things out but I have this lingering feeling things are not over between them, he stays at her house still for hours at a time and will not tell her we are back together. He will not take my calls when he is with her eiher. Is this a red flag or just something I have to go through?