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SD Frustrations *Update

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Submitted by StepperLife on Mon, 09/23/2019 - 4:39am

Re-cap : DH says SD will be staying X amount of days. SD mother the past four times has gone MIA when it’s time to send SD on her way - DH excuses these actions by saying “she needs a break”. Meanwhile I am a SAHM to our three girls while he is a trucker and can be gone from 21 plus days. SD leaves messes sleeps anywhere she wants to etc. Annoys the crap out of me because I have a routine due to the fact I am a SAHM and obviously need one when my little army of girls -10, 16 months and 4 months- when I’m by myself. 

SD frustrations

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Submitted by StepperLife on Sun, 09/22/2019 - 3:25pm

So DH told me on Thursday SD would be coming over from my previous post we all know I’m disengaged. He informed me she would only be staying a night. Okay. I can manage. But yet again dear SD’s mother has found herself not home and not available and we are at almost 4:30 on Sunday. 

Disengaged Type Of Weekend

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Submitted by StepperLife on Fri, 09/20/2019 - 7:44pm

So SD14 has come to join us this weekend. Although I didn’t cringe when DH first told me, a hour into it and I’m already over it. 

Growing up as a child in a Hispanic household you bet your ass we spoke and said hello upon entering any household. Saludar! Not even a hi until 30 minutes in. Ok, well we know there’s no home training. But my lord, as a woman raising three girls I am raising our oldest to take care of herself as a woman. 

Dear Daughter is something else

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Submitted by StepperLife on Thu, 09/12/2019 - 11:10am

I know we all come here to vent about our SKIDS.... but this cuts so much deeper than that. It’s my own daughter. My SD is a teen, does basically whatever she wants. No real structure at her mother’s house and DH is a Disney Dad with her because he feels to discipline her in our home is not going to do much even when she does the most. But my own DD, our oldest 10, has become very difficult these past few months. We have two younger ones and she feels we don’t love her. Even though we spend one on one time with her, still pay attention to her, etc.

Losing My Sh*t

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Submitted by StepperLife on Wed, 08/14/2019 - 7:04pm

Here it is, I’m approaching 72 hrs with 3 hours of sleep. Yup you read that right. With the start of a new school year where we live, two littles not on the same sleeping schedule (when one goes down, one comes up), the littlest not sleeping at nigh, maintains the house, parent pick up, parent drop of, showering, cooking, not taking up full time drinking - a joke relax- I’m running on coffee as strong as my ODD attitude and fumes. 

The Never-ending fight

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Submitted by StepperLife on Thu, 08/08/2019 - 3:06pm

So DH and I are yet again at this never ending fight. He becomes so nasty and verbally hostile. It’s a sensitive subject but still we should be able to discuss things. 

So the topic SD, school shopping seems to be never ending with her. It bothers me because well I’m one of these parents that gets things done early, make sure by ODD has things she needs and wants. Here we are a few days before school and SD now has things she needs to get, why DM isn’t getting them idk. We live  about 40 minutes from the mall and from there another 50 minutes from where SD lives. 

Prince Charming or Disney Dad

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Submitted by StepperLife on Wed, 08/07/2019 - 12:33pm

Prince Charming:

Charming, Sweet, Loving, Tall, Dark and even Handsome. Someone who understands me, I have anxiety and his patience for me shows when I’m having an attack. Accepts my OCD like behaviors. Never left the toilet seat up. An amazing dad to our littles. Great provider. 

Disney Dad:

(little background - when he was 18 he had two children (both adults now) due to an ugly custody fight he had a lifetime stay away order. His teen DD who comes over periodically I know he feels an obligation towards. But to what extreme. )