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Losing My Sh*t

StepperLife's picture

Here it is, I’m approaching 72 hrs with 3 hours of sleep. Yup you read that right. With the start of a new school year where we live, two littles not on the same sleeping schedule (when one goes down, one comes up), the littlest not sleeping at nigh, maintains the house, parent pick up, parent drop of, showering, cooking, not taking up full time drinking - a joke relax- I’m running on coffee as strong as my ODD attitude and fumes. 

With all that being said, DH today, while not laughing at one of his ridiculous dad jokes, felt the need - knowing my lack of sleep- to say I’m being a stuck up bitch .... um ok  

sorry I didn’t laugh, to be honest I wasn’t paying attention I just looked at him like are you kidding ? To damn tired to even entertain his bs right now I just told him “Okay”, he then proceeds to tell me to just shut up, mind you I said one word.

I need prayers cause I’m going to lose my shit - probably not because I have no energy for that  

 

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justmakingthebest's picture

You husband called you a bitch and told you to shut up?

He is still alive?

I think you could get away with it. Sleep deprivation and hormones. Definitely a solid case for temporary insanity.

In all seriousness. This is not ok. Is this normal for him? I would never tolerate disrespect like that from my partner. I would sit him down and explain that you will not be treated like that and if he can't pull his head out of his ass- the door is that way. 

SteppedOut's picture

^^^ABSOLUTELY THIS!!

OP, this is NOT behavior you should tolerate. At all. Maybe he should consider helping you out.. perhaps let you have a nap? Oooo, but he "works", so that should be it right? He needs to relax? SMH. 

StepperLife's picture

 Yes he does work. One reason why I am a stay at home mom. But here is the kicker, he is a trucker. Don’t give me wrong he is out of the home 3-44 weeks at a time. But when he’s home for 2-3 weeks relax seeing it gets a bit stressful. To see his lack of help. 

 It’s like, he can take his time shitting, eating, showering and anything else he might want to do. I feel like I have to make an appointment just to have a meal. Or even a cuppa coffee while it’s still hot. 

I get it, his family and my family the man never really dealt with babies, I don’t know why it’s just like that. I’m used to that. But for the two older ones, or even when his daughter is here, it’s still the same thing. On top of it I have to deal with his nasty daughters attitude, sometimes while sleep deprived. I’m just kind of over the whole thing. 

DHsfamilyfromhell's picture

Sending hugs - it WILL get easier. I occasionally go for an hour or two nap when my husbands at home, in exchange for him having lie ins on his days off, or him having a nap after. Our daughter gets up at five. I only get up if I hear major skawking going on. We don’t get on any better, and some days I do think we are headed for divorce, but at least we are slightly less sleep deprived. 

DHsfamilyfromhell's picture

I meant get up when my husbands looking after the kids- of course I get up at five with my daughter. 

My husband works odd hours so a typical day can look like this: he might work from 5am till 9am. I have to get up with our daughter also at 5am. One year old gets up at 7am. Husband gets home I say would you like to go for a nap. He will say no, I say go on go to bed for a nap or you will fall asleep on the sofa and you will go ouch because the kids will jump on you. So he go’s for a nap, then I do. We normally then take the kids out of the house for the day until he goes back to work which is either 5-7pm or 7pm-11pm

JBDmom's picture

The struggle is real with having a partner who doesn’t help out with the kids or around the house. I love being a sahm but that doesn’t mean I don’t get overwhelmed by the amount of stuff I have on my plate on a daily basis especially while running off little to no sleep. It would be so nice to be able to do anything with out kids crawling on my legs or needing something. Just last night after cooking and feeding my 1 year old my bf sat on the couch after having eaten while I’m struggling to eat around my 3 week old because he’s crying. He didn’t even offer to hold him so I could finish my food he just sat there ignoring us. 

StepperLife's picture

Okay, maybe not hate but I am jealous of his alone time. I breastfed #2 and #3 it’s like I would finish cooking, my littlest one would want to eat. Do you think he would offer to fix a plate and bring it to me. Not at all smh. I’m having surgery soon, like let’s see what’s going to happen because he’ll be seeing what it’s like, even while I’m still drugged and loopey I bet I’ll still be tending to them. 

Siemprematahari's picture

He called you a b!tch and told you to shut up and you didn't get in his @ss for disrespecting you?

Hell No!!!!

He's so out of line!

StepperLife's picture

that’s just how damn tired I was. Exhausted. Sleep deprived. I was a walking zombie.