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OT-Poll...about seperate bedrooms for boys

overit2's picture

Ok in a post yesterday I kind of came to the realization that indeed I am going to use my office for my oldest as his own bedroom soon.

Problem is this-he's been asking for his own room but not daily-more like every couple of weeks or so.

The boys normally have that as their bonding time though as well. As much as it annoys me they chit chat, laugh, tell jokes, stories, sometimes get up and play. Again-sure that annoys me when they aren't going to sleep but it's a time of the day that they get along and bond as brothers.
I'm not quite sure my youngest would be ready to give that up right now. They are 9 and 11 (19 months apart).

Since the oldest isn't so insistent and i think the youngest really doesn't want him to go I'm thinking of waiting till next year. Perhaps offer his own room as incentive after school is out if his grades are good/improved before entering middle school. So I guess he would be 12. The bf seemed to have the opinion of at 13. (He had an older brother).

So just trying to get some ideas/poll of which age do you think it becomes more of a "need" vs a 'want'...and also trying to consider the youngest brothers feelings on it. They've been very close and have always shared a room.

Also-your opinions on bed sizes??

Currently they each have a twin bed (used to be bunkbeds now they are seperated).

I'm thinking a full for him and let the youngest keep the two beds if he has friends. A queen would really take up too much room in that size bedroom. But at age 12 or so...a full is almost a must vs a twin right?

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SteppingUp's picture

I think if you have the room for the oldest to move into, go ahead. He's entering a stage where his individuality will be in question (the middle school years) and this will help him to feel more at peace with himself, and to build a place where he feels is totally his.

However, the "need" doesn't seem to be there yet and it sounds like they get along okay so I would say waiting another year wouldn't be detrimental in any way, either. Just do what you and your H think is best!

Also, I grew up my whole life (up until I had my own apartment in college) with a twin bed. Nowadays it seems more the norm to give your kids a double bed. I don't really see a need for a double bed unless he's a really big or tall kid.