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My sad husband....cont.

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So yesterday I blogged about my husband going through a bout of depression. When things were good, every morning I would text him something sweet and encouraging for the day ex. "have a good day my love! I love you with all my heart. You are an amazing leader and will do great with xyz today!". Since he's been down I have changed that and sent him messages like "I live you with all my heart. You are a wonderful man, husband, friend, father, lover. You are the best part of my life. I will be here through thick and thin. The vows say for better or worse.

Don't know how to handle this anymore

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Well, sd13 is still the little manipulative psycho she has always been. Some things never change there. But now I am having to take on more of a role with her because dh is going through a depression.

Dh has suffered from "depression" for a long time. I think it's more like bipolar, but whatever. He has been on medication, and with some effort, has been fine. About three weeks ago his medication just stopped working. Though he is not like he was before the med (hateful, mean, scary), he is very distant, hopeless, and inward sighted.

Praying

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Has anyone heard from praying....her ss was in an institution after some really bad abuse, husband was visiting, ss was responding, etc. I've tried messaging herm searching blogs, nothing. I'm really worried.

Houstex??

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Anyone heard anything about houstex, Ella (?), and captain? I've been concerned and havent seen anything for a while?

Helpless

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Im trying to figure out at what point sd13 fully disengaged her brain. She has been incapable of doing, finding, anything for months now. She will stand in the fridge with what she wabts directly in front of her and ask where us xyz? Or ask how do I stop the DVD player (something she has done a thousand times in the past)? It's insane. Where are my shoes- right in front of here, where is the salsa- right in front of your damn face, how do I open the box- are you fucking kidding me??? It's constant!! She is being manipulative and lazy, in my opinion.m I'm so sick of it.

The note

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So last night ss10 goes to dinner and grocery shopping with us while sd13 goes with a friend and the friends mother to the mall. It was very pleasant. We come home, and due to a shortage of school paper last year, and a huge ass scene at the store with sd13, I decided to get her 3 packs early. I go into her room to put the on her desk, and front and center for me to find is a "journal entry" on a piece of notebook paper. In this she talks about how her bm and Dh just keep pushing her further and further away because they dont "listen".

Holy cow, really??

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So I came home from work, where sd13 and ss10 have been by themselves most of the day, except the hour I came home for lunch to walk the dog and check on them. The kitchen is a fucking disaster!! I mean food spilled on the counter, dishes e dry where, chips shoved down the sink drain....unbelievable. I clean this up and go to sit on the couch....finally. My had touches something somewhat slimy....popcorn butter, for real?? We have a very strict no eating on the couch policy.

She ran away twice with a boy

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Sd13 is still on vacation with her useless bm. We have gotten called multiple times everyday about her not being, exposing herself in public, meeting a boy (16 year ol), and then she got mad at bm and ran away. That night they found her at a bar. Nodes bm decide to parents this psycho at ths point? NO, of course not. She ignores the problem, made a small attempt to ground sd, but then of course se wont watch her so last night se ran away again. Bm couldn't find her but refused to call the police.

Now he's depressed because sd is depressed

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Shit....how in the world did everything flip so quickly. Dh was fine, then after sd13's tantrum the other night and her indecent exposure, he is for sure she is slipping back mental health wise, and all of it is his fault. Dh suffers from depression, he does fine with medication. But now that he is blaming himself for sd's "mental health problems" (it's hereditary you know), he's so down he's barely talking. I hate that even when she isn't here she controls our lives. We went to the gym tonight and he didn't say a word the whole 45 minutes. Usually we talk the entire time.

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