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Submitted by SMto3 on Thu, 07/10/2014 - 3:44pm

It's about to get a little more complicated. So I found out that I am pregnant the ending of May. I am now approximately 12 weeks along. SO and I are looking at houses to move out of where we currently live. After the law guardians became involved during SO's last arrest (the last time I blogged), they realized after speaking to the kids that BM has some serious issues. She is now under supervised visitation and is only able to see the boys once weekly for 45 minutes. The law guardian is recommending that she be evaluated by a psychiatrist.

Need advice ASAP re legal issues

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Submitted by SMto3 on Wed, 03/19/2014 - 7:47am

I don't know how much background info I've given on BM/Ex wife but she is certifiably crazy. She has been using the legal system to her advantage for the past 8 years or so. She continues to make false allegations at least every few months. There are currently a few open court cases because she owes child support, plus she filed for food stamps and government assistance and said skids were living with her, so the government is pursuing SO for child support EVEN THOUGH HE HAS CUSTODY and there is already an open case regarding her non payment.

When skids try to interfere

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Submitted by SMto3 on Mon, 03/17/2014 - 5:01pm

SS14 has lately been showing signs of trying to interfere in our relationship. The 3 most recent ones being:
1. Last week, SS says "I bet you don't know Daddy's FB password". I said "of course I do, and he knows mine" and he goes "Daddy doesn't have a facebook anymore, haha!" I said, " right, but when he did, I had it".

I've become a single parent overnight.

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Submitted by SMto3 on Wed, 01/15/2014 - 6:23pm

I posted last week that SO is taking on a new schedule this week. He had been working 9-5 M, Th, Fri, and Sunday and Saturdays 6a-2p for 13 years. His issue with that schedule is that he is supposed to have skids EOW but hasn't really stressed that BM have them every weekend since he'd be working anyway. The new opportunity he has is 4p-midnight M, T, and W and overnight Th and Fri. His rationale for testing this out is that he wants to have time on the weekend with skids like "normal" families.

When does the sacrifice become too much on both ends?

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Submitted by SMto3 on Sun, 01/12/2014 - 12:40pm

I have been living with my SO for going on 2 years. He has custody of his 2 sons (14 and 8 years old) from his marriage and has a 3 year old boy who lives out of state with his mom. My main issue is not so much with the kids as it is with the ex wife. I have refused to trash talk her, though I really dislike all the crap she has pulled (she just filed for an order of protection alleging that SO has been physically and emotionally abusing her and the boys for the past 9 years, which comes on the heels of the report that she filed stating he tried to run her over while he was with me).

I need advice

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Submitted by SMto3 on Tue, 01/07/2014 - 2:49pm

Since I've gotten into a relationship with SO, I feel that SS8 and SS12 have at times pretended to be sick. However, lately SS* has been really going at it at least on a weekly basis. His complaints range from he has a "tummy ache" to he doesn't feel well.

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Submitted by SMto3 on Sat, 12/07/2013 - 10:32am

I am in a relationship (and living with) a wonderful man who has 3 sons, custody of 2. I'm going to try my best to capture our story in a nutshell. My SO is originally from another country, where he met his ex wife. She was from America and the way he tells it, he was not interested in her initially, but she was a little aggressive. At the time, he was heavily into Christianity, and though he says she was not his type physically, he felt that she was a good person overall and he married her. After getting married, she became pregnant with his first son.

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