Disengaging.... still learning
Ever since EX1 and EX2 and SD21 made their disagreement with us getting engaged be known, I've been on a mission: learning how to disengage from them and their drama and still hold onto my relationship. This sh*t is hard. We have broken up in the past due to this drama with them. FH has a tendency to run when it gets tough because that's all he's ever done. But he doesn't want to continue that behavior and he also doesn't want to let them dictate anything we do. He wants me by his side at every event, even if they don't like it. I'm so proud of him for wanting to cement our relationship like that. And he says the engagement is coming, he wants it to be surprise and I have to just be patient.
He is the one who is 100% on board now and willing to take the step to back that up. It is me who wants to run away half the time. And I figured out that is because I don't know how to properly disengage without seeming like a stone cold b*tch.
We have every weekend with EX2 and SD21, who dislike me. And SS11 loves me and wants me to attend his sports each weekend, as does FH. FH says that if they want me there than I should be going with no hesitation and ignoring EX2 and SD21. that he won't ignore his daughter but if she chooses to distance herself then that is on her, nothing we can do about it but keep being happy and a strong couple and let her do her own thing. I don't now when he got so smart. I suspect he has been for over a year now and it's actually me who needs to learn something here.
So..... how the hell do I be around them but disengaged? Teach me