Ugh...BM being stupid DH too
This has been an ongoing thing with SS13. He does not want to read anything and keeps coming up with excuses and manipulations ao that he doesn't have to study/ read. He did getdiagnosed with a reading disability and had an Iep in grade 5( he will be in grade 9 this fall). Do not know the status of that iep or anything.( I doubt BM got off her ass to go get it reevaluated since 5th grade).
Over the past year I was appalled to find out that ss13's teachers are still letting him read comic books in class as acceptable reading. DH and I agreed that SS should start reading real books( IE books without pictures in them). He was doing fine with that and the for a few months. Then he started showing up with mangas and books with pictures in them again. Not wanting to read his school material because "nobody told him he needed to".
When asked he would say BM told him he should only read what is necessary( this includes school material) because he has a learning disability.
This came to a head this weekend when we found out he got a D in english because he wasn't reading what he was supposed to. Then he pulls out a book with large print an pictures. We yelled at hime. Same response that his mom lets him.
Sunday night after getting home BM wrote DH a nasty text about her son having an Iep and the usual excuses and about how I had hurt her sons feelings blah blah blah. DH wrote her back that he agreed with me and gave her some excuses of his own. (What I think happened is that he went crying to his mom about how I hurt his feelings so that he does not have to do any reading at all)
Then over dinner next day he told me to lay off the kid about picture books because he never wants to hear BM like that ever again. (Though in the texts to her he agreed with me and this was a decision we made together for the good of his son). I feel blamed for the actions of stupid BM.
I am very upset at DH right now about blaming me for the situation. Am I over reacting?