BM is neglectful- how to drain a stuffy nose?
A bit of background:D
H and I have been together for 10+ years. He has 2 sons by 2 different women. This post is about younger SS12 who is nonverbal autistic but otherwise teachable and a great kid( he understands language but does not speak). He learns with repetition very well!
His BM is neglectful( not enough to win in court but enough for me to rant about on here). The re are many things Ss has learned with us (myself and DH) that took YEARS for him to get in the habit of: potty training( still does not wipe his butt- her excuse when he smells' he just doesn't like it), reading, eating with a fork and knife, cleaning his room, making his bed folding his clothes, washing his body,face and teeth.
The problem is that he learns it at our house and it is never reinforces at her house. There is always an excuse as to why and they are never good ones. Some examples:
1. she does not bathe him or tell him to bathe and sends him over sprayed with cologne. She even told us he is getting stinky and we shouldake sure to use deodorant!
2. She lets him play and watch whatever he wants in her basement. He has learned to communicate from violent videogames and she does nothing until he punched his teacher in the face and got sent home.
3. She refuses to get him ABA therapy because once per week is too taxing for him( it is not- I presume they were critical of the nasty surroundings)
Many other examples exist and are more than enough to write a book about.
The latest battle:
He has been sick for the last few weeks with a stuffed nose. He does not know how to blow it and what we teach him is not enforced at BM house. When asked by text she told DH that she just gives him a tissue and tells him to blow. He has been trying to suck in his boogers this entire weekend. BM does not even try to teach him how to blow his nose!
Ugh! I just am beyond frustrated with BM!
I would also like to help SS drain his nose. Any suggestions are appreciated.
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His BM is neglectful( not
Hire a better lawyer.
There's no reason a qualified parent should be ncp to a neglectful abusive custodial parent.
A LOT of ain't sh*t "mothers" out here that can't /wont parent their own dna to save their lives and it's disgusting
Collect evidence and report.
Draining a stuffy nose, you
Draining a stuffy nose, you could try making him take a hot bath/shower or using a humidifier or even just sticking his head over a bowl of hot water with a towel. Vicks vapo rub or a saline nasal spray would also work.
If he has been sick for more than 2 weeks though I'd probably take him to the doctor just to check it isn't anything worse than a cold.
Update: success his nose is drained!
After much discomfort and discussion and a bright red nose lol I am proud to report that my SS12 learned to blow his nose( is no longer sucking the boogers in- sorry for the graphic)
Will it last? We will see next weekend.
Grrrrr. I woudl have every
Grrrrr. I woudl have every CPS and related agency at BM's house constantly for her crap. This is a special needs kid that can thrive if BM woudl pull her head out of her ass and engage the available support for her son.
Daddy needs to go for full custody with nothing more than professionally supervised visitation between SS and his idiot toxic POS mother. The sooner this effort starts, the better.
Successful or not, it should never end. THis idiot needs her ass bared in every way possible, to every support organization available, law enforcement, CPS, the schools, etc, in an effort to get this young man the support he can thrive under.
I am sorry that your SS and your family is cursed with the stench of this POS BM and XW.