"We have plans to go out of town that weekend."

That is all. No mention of the conferences, no mention of football games. BUT SUUUURRREEE they have plans to go out of town as soon as DH will arrive in state with 4 weeks notice. Yup... I totally believe it. 

According to our lawyer yesterday- Getting married, DH's new orders that actually keep us here, the medical issues (see past blogs, we are dealing with Munchousen Syndrome by Proxy), Taking DH's name off the school contacts (I added him and myself back on) -- are all not enough to have visitation revisited. We aren't looking for a custody flip. Just every other Thanksgiving, 1/2 of winter break, spring break and 8 weeks in the summer-- you know standard out of state crap. 

I swear I must like being disappointed. 

I just priced out flights for Christmas for SSstb14. We know BM won't let us have him. We know that she is going to ignore the email requests. We know it. WHHHYYY do we even bother?? Why can't we just give up like BM wants us to?? 

Maybe she will come back with a quick "No" and I can add that to the stuff currently being worked out by the lawyers. I doubt it... but maybe. If she says no, and we don't go to SS state for Thanksgiving (not that she has to let us see him), we will go 7 months without seeing him.

We have been trying to get SS18 a job for a while now. He is autistic, severe ADHD and bi polar. He is a good kid but... weird. He can't connect to people, doesn't look them in the eyes, has a hard time with conversations that are based in reality, etc. So interviews for him are very challenging.