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Lies on top of more lies

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So, two days ago SD was telling us she was staying for a week because her mom was out of town.  I don't think a any of us were happy about this news.  Today she decided there was nothing she wanted to eat at our house, and BM came brought her food then I guess for some reason she got a bee in her bonnet and then BM came and picked her up, so no more SD.  Not sure exactly what happened, DH is trying to put on a happy face, doesn't want to talk about it.

Bullying

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SD has taken up bullying YDS who is 7 years younger than her.  I did notice she scapegoated him when she decided he was the reason she didn't want to be here anymore.  Since, I totally missed that entire interraction, because I try to avoid SD, I decided I would make sure both my kids are supervised around her (DH is codependent so I can't trust him).  She's always been a model older sister despite the way she has treated me, I never dreamed this would be an issue.

SD left...

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And is now living with BM, I imagine it's teen drama, and things will change when she calms down, because honestly, I'm sure BM's home isn't easystreet either.  I also suspect to a certain degree that DH is being manipulated, not necessarily for malicious purposes, but because that's just how SD deals with life, instead of direct, honest communication. Once she gets what she really wants out of him, it will be like it never happened. 

Annual visit with ILs

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Is all over with.  I am so proud of my two boys, they have matured SO much, they offered to help out their grandparents, they were super duper polite to them, even though their grandparents constantly pander to SD.  They don’t dare compliment my kids at all or buy them gifts like they do SD.  (They totally see the unfairness, and we’ve had a discussion about how MIL is a whackadoo, it’s not SD’s fault, and we should be kind).

Ugh drama

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So, I didn’t invite SD on a trip.  This trip is on BM’s weekend, SD quote “hates other people” so I assumed she wouldn’t want to go.  Its for a club my son is in with his friends’ families.  SD has no manners whatsoever and still throws tantrums like a toddler when she doesn’t get her way, and DH has to leave me with our kids to coddle her for hours to make her feel better.  I’m also the one people go to when she’s not behaving.  Like I have any control over it.  So no, she’s definitely not going, DH would have to stay home with her if it was during his weekend.  

No win

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My possibly skirts wearing super Christian SD, has flipped to become anti-skirt, now wearing my DH’s cast offs instead of the skirts she chose for school clothes last year & non church going now, we all just decided to stop attending, since we couldn’t find a church nearby that openly accepts gay people.

Crazy BM?

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DH and I take our dog for a walk everyday same place, same time.  Is it a coincidence that BM happens to be there with her kids 2 days in a row, at the same time?  Even though there are 3 parks closer to her home?  All that are newer and more kid friendly?  I do get that now she’s a single mom, and maybe going out is not feasible.  Also, SD was with her and all our kids get along... so they may be driving it too.

DH and BM had a long talk

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This included BMs domestic battery charge.  It was all SFs fault of course, I’m sure the judge will make up his mind about that.  But DH is ball-less so it didn’t include why SD was made to keep it a secret for the past 5 months.

 Then they talked about the creepy picture of BM and DH swapping spit — which she admitted giving to SD, but insisted it was SD that chose to hang it up.  I guess DH outright told SD it was creepy, and that leaked to BM, and BM felt she had to say something.  

BM is off the deep end

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Some juicy drama, BM was arrested for beating up ex SF months ago.  DH just found out about this now.  On top of this SF has been throwing temper tantrums and throwing stuff at home.  So SD is at our house until who knows when.

 So, The next time SD goes on about how much better her mom is to get under my skin, boy do I have the best shut down remarks to use ever.  I can start with the fact that at least I’ve never been in the back of a police car, and work up from there.  

Picture

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I was in SDs room with DH fixing a furniture issue she was having, and low and behold clinging to a mirror is a printed picture of DH and BM kissing.  My very first thought was ew, and DH said the same (which to me was ironic, considering).  Anyway, I’m not bugged by it.  I mostly feel sorry for borderline BM that she actually kept this picture (it’s a recent print) and may still have a flame going for him.  A little sorry for SD, realizing that SDs animosity towards me might actually be fueled by BM’s craziness.

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