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Submitted by GoingWicked on Fri, 08/16/2019 - 12:13pm

So, I didn’t invite SD on a trip.  This trip is on BM’s weekend, SD quote “hates other people” so I assumed she wouldn’t want to go.  Its for a club my son is in with his friends’ families.  SD has no manners whatsoever and still throws tantrums like a toddler when she doesn’t get her way, and DH has to leave me with our kids to coddle her for hours to make her feel better.  I’m also the one people go to when she’s not behaving.  Like I have any control over it.  So no, she’s definitely not going, DH would have to stay home with her if it was during his weekend.  

I really think the only reason she wants to go is because she’s not invited and DH is going, because she won’t have fun, and she’ll either monopolize DH’s attention or my son’s, even though he’s there to hang out with his friends, because she will not socialize with other people.

 DH is now pouting, asking me 13 years later how he can get his kid some manners.  I told him I have no idea, my kids were taught to use please, thank you, excuse me, I’m sorry, hi, how are you, goodbye, etc by the time they were preschoolers. I tried with SD but was constantly undermined by him.  Sorry, I really don’t know what to do for him, nor at this point do I care.  And SD is clearly pissed at me which means in addition to not talking to me as usual, she’s now not looking at me and I really want to say, “gee SD that hurts SO much, I TOTALLY feel bad about not bringing you (not)”.  Anyway here’s to an entire week without the brat.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Fri, 08/16/2019 - 12:21pm

Woo hoo for you!!!

Instill some manners 13 years later.... bahahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!
Then again, she's not that old in dog years, so maaaaaaaybe he can teach her. ~snort~

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Submitted by Harry on Fri, 08/16/2019 - 12:23pm

To be pissed at you.  If it’s not going it’s something else.  It’s her BM weekend not your fault. 

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Submitted by GoingWicked on Fri, 08/16/2019 - 12:38pm

Yeah, I’m more worried about DH.  I feel for him, he clearly realizes he made some mistakes.  I guess I feel for SD too, but not enough where I’m willing to put up with her.  This is totally DH’s problem, and I’m no longer willing to put up with bad behavior to soothe their feelings.

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Submitted by Ispofacto on Fri, 08/16/2019 - 3:16pm

Yeah, we stopped doing outings and vacays with Killjoy.  You know, because Kill Joy is a miserable girl and would just pout and complain nonstop anywhere we went.  DH feels bad and says, "she misses doing fun things."

She never had fun.  What she misses is the privilege of being in a family that could afford to do fun things, it fed her VIP mentality.

 

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Submitted by GoingWicked on Fri, 08/16/2019 - 1:08pm

I started scheduling most outings for on weekends she is not here a long time ago for those reasons.  DH would literally up and leave me with 2 little kids sometimes out in the middle of nowhere on a hiking trail because his daughter was throwing a fit and she needed lots of extra care.  Or she would complain the entire time and then call her mom on the way home and state loudly how much she hated the outing.  And I am usually the one making all the plans and packing, and she doesn’t say a word to me the entire time.  Forget that, I just make plans when she can’t go.  I’m just so glad I raised kids that are for the most part nice to be around (and if they’re not I have the power to straighten them out real fast).  

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Submitted by susanm on Fri, 08/16/2019 - 1:03pm

Isn't this the girl who professes to be "super Christian" to the point that she refused to wear anything but skirts for a while?  Where did she get the idea that tantrum throwing when people don't give in to your demands, disrespecting your parents, and "hating other people" was a Christian thing?  Did I miss that particular part of the New Testament?  I mean, my SD was exactly like that in her teens and continues to be well into her 20's but at least she proudly embraces the fact that she is a nasty piece of work!

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Submitted by GoingWicked on Fri, 08/16/2019 - 1:15pm

Lol, did I mention her mom is BPD and she’s likely BPD as well, who knows because her parents have their heads firmly implanted in the sand, and they think none of this is abnormal, though I think DH is getting there.  So, anyway she’s crazy and she’s been spoiled.  The skirts thing is so very last season, now she’s only wearing pants (which means she tossed out the hundreds of dollars worth of skirts she and her mom bought last year)... and agnostic maybe?  She’s not going to church.  

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Submitted by Siemprematahari on Fri, 08/16/2019 - 1:28pm

And SD is clearly pissed at me which means in addition to not talking to me as usual

^^^^^^^^I find it hilarious that SD would think you'd be so hurt and heart-broken by her not speaking to you. She has no idea what a favor she's doing for you Yahoo She can be pissed all she wants, she's not going and nothing will change that.

 DH is now pouting, asking me 13 years later how he can get his kid some manners.

Let this be a lesson to your H of what happens when you don't parent, give consequences and teach a child manners.....you end up having to deal with this BS.