I don't even feel badly anymore for disliking this kid. I mentioned on previous blog that SS14 (high functioningish autistic) has recently lost his calculator. Yesterday he tried taking calculators away from 2 teachers and 1 student claiming it was his. Then, one of the teachers told SS to give the calculator back. He refused. She stood in the doorway and again asked for the calculator. He refused again and pushed/brushed past her and left the classroom. He has a history of inappropriate physical contact (mostly hugs) so this is a big no-no. Another incident report emailed, I think
Then reality hits.......I had NO IDEA. See previous blogs for history. So much crap has hit the fan and I am LOSING it. SD20 has gained almost 100 pounds since she went out of state for school. ALL she talks about is her weight, her anxiety, how many meds she is on, etc etc....it's annoying beyond belief. Even FDH has had it. She is about a year behind and at least 20K into student loan debts, not including the Parent Loans that BM has taken out. Thank all of the higher powers that FDH does NOT believe in taking out parent loans for college. So she is dropping out of school and want
Oh boy, steppers. I'm at a complete loss and need your wisdom.
SS13 is autistic. We hired a nanny for the summer to watch him. SD15 is also home, but she has no authority over her little brother, he doesn't listen to her at all. It's also not fair for her to give up her summer to babysit her little brother.
I can’t believe I was so DUMB and didn’t catch onto this. SD15 has been caught cutting twice. I don’t underestimate how hard it is being a teenager in this day and age, but this little girl has EVERYTHING she needs and almost EVERYTHING she wants so it REALLY pisses me off that she’s doing this. Poor little white-upper-middle-class-suburbian teenager. She has it sooooooooo rough. I met one of my skids’ cousins’ friends last summer that had a whole host of scars on her upper thighs……her stepdad had molested her for years and was currently in prison, finally. Now THAT poor little girl h
And I know this.....I KNOW this, I get it. I was a nightmare of a teenager for a while....drinking, smoking cigarettes, promiscuous.....but I was always a good student and a cheerleader to boot, go figure. I also witnessed SDnow20s descent and ascent from teenaged hell, so yesyesyes, they all suck. SD15 was a very sweet, kind little girl and then....puberty and teenaged-years hit. This little girl that used to get up from the dinner table just to give me a hug has turned into a sullen, lazy, selfish, self-absorbed, LYING teenager who is currently flunking 3 classes.
I haven't posted, but have been reading everyone's posts for months, so I still feel like a STalker.
I've been here for years!!!
I haven’t posted in eons, but have been lurking on a regular basis so I am familiar with all the latest and greatest….including yet another “mass exodus”. It’s unfortunate. I will especially miss LadyFace and Echo, and hope they reincarnate themselves and return!
So, I’m coming out of STalker retirement, although things have REALLY changed this year, I’m just now getting around to posting…..I think I’m going to need the vent AND the advice in the near future.
I responded to another post with this, but figured I'd create a new one just for the heck of it.
This just happened this week.
Quick recap.....SO has primary custody of SD18, SD13, SS12. We have been together over 6 years, still living separately. Mostly because I did NOT sign up for some of this nonsense as detailed below. Call me selfish, I don't really care, but I did not raise this kid and I will NOT sacrifice my hard-earned dollars and my sanity. I am also worried about how SS12 will be when he hits puberty. Will he get violent?? SO doesn't like it, but he has the same concerns that I do so he kind of understands where I am coming from.
I don't post much, since I'm mostly disengaged and we still live in separate houses/separate suburbs and things have been pretty good. Coming up on 6 years together!
I only see SO on weekends, but we talk every day, sometimes we meet for lunch. I see the kids sometimes on weekends when they're not at their Mom's and we do stuff. They are pretty decent kids, so I am generally a happy camper!