I've blogged before about my Dad. No filter, getting worse as he gets older. My brother is about 2 years younger than me, we are in our mid-40s. My brother has always been the protected golden child with both my parents even though he is the one that got in the most trouble, never finished school, never got a real job, etc.......basically he gets rewarded for breathing and my achievements are just not quite ever good enough. Dad and I live in the same town. I help Dad out when he needs it, do the occasional lunch/movie thing, watch his pets when he goes out of town, etc.
The beginning of this week was NOT good for SS. Defiant, mouthy, annoying, all negative behaviors ramping up. I have been handling watching SS get to his bus (curbside pickup/dropoff) so that FDH can get to work earlier. On Monday, he was caught trying to take toys to school (big no-no and he knows this). THEN he refused to hand them over and tried to push past me and grabbing at my arm, oh HELL no......he got taken down to the kitchen floor. Lots of screaming and flailing by him. He lost all privileges this week. He's been much much better the rest of the week.
So here's my issue. SS14 is autistic and has the emotional maturity of a 5 to 8 year old. His manners are atrocious. He shovels food in his mouth like someone's going to take it away from him, gulps his drink like he's dying of thirst WITH food still in his mouth, talks with food in his mouth, clanks and scrapes his silverware against the plate, slurps and grunts at times, and interrupts and interjects in EVERY conversation. He spills food all around his plate, you get the picture. It's like this every single meal. FDH and I can prep him before dinner, warnings of losing his meal/eati
I don't even feel badly anymore for disliking this kid. I mentioned on previous blog that SS14 (high functioningish autistic) has recently lost his calculator. Yesterday he tried taking calculators away from 2 teachers and 1 student claiming it was his. Then, one of the teachers told SS to give the calculator back. He refused. She stood in the doorway and again asked for the calculator. He refused again and pushed/brushed past her and left the classroom. He has a history of inappropriate physical contact (mostly hugs) so this is a big no-no. Another incident report emailed, I think
Then reality hits.......I had NO IDEA. See previous blogs for history. So much crap has hit the fan and I am LOSING it. SD20 has gained almost 100 pounds since she went out of state for school. ALL she talks about is her weight, her anxiety, how many meds she is on, etc etc....it's annoying beyond belief. Even FDH has had it. She is about a year behind and at least 20K into student loan debts, not including the Parent Loans that BM has taken out. Thank all of the higher powers that FDH does NOT believe in taking out parent loans for college. So she is dropping out of school and want
Oh boy, steppers. I'm at a complete loss and need your wisdom.
SS13 is autistic. We hired a nanny for the summer to watch him. SD15 is also home, but she has no authority over her little brother, he doesn't listen to her at all. It's also not fair for her to give up her summer to babysit her little brother.
I can’t believe I was so DUMB and didn’t catch onto this. SD15 has been caught cutting twice. I don’t underestimate how hard it is being a teenager in this day and age, but this little girl has EVERYTHING she needs and almost EVERYTHING she wants so it REALLY pisses me off that she’s doing this. Poor little white-upper-middle-class-suburbian teenager. She has it sooooooooo rough. I met one of my skids’ cousins’ friends last summer that had a whole host of scars on her upper thighs……her stepdad had molested her for years and was currently in prison, finally. Now THAT poor little girl h
And I know this.....I KNOW this, I get it. I was a nightmare of a teenager for a while....drinking, smoking cigarettes, promiscuous.....but I was always a good student and a cheerleader to boot, go figure. I also witnessed SDnow20s descent and ascent from teenaged hell, so yesyesyes, they all suck. SD15 was a very sweet, kind little girl and then....puberty and teenaged-years hit. This little girl that used to get up from the dinner table just to give me a hug has turned into a sullen, lazy, selfish, self-absorbed, LYING teenager who is currently flunking 3 classes.
I haven't posted, but have been reading everyone's posts for months, so I still feel like a STalker.
I've been here for years!!!
I haven’t posted in eons, but have been lurking on a regular basis so I am familiar with all the latest and greatest….including yet another “mass exodus”. It’s unfortunate. I will especially miss LadyFace and Echo, and hope they reincarnate themselves and return!
So, I’m coming out of STalker retirement, although things have REALLY changed this year, I’m just now getting around to posting…..I think I’m going to need the vent AND the advice in the near future.