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Kids have no friggin manners

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Submitted by DarkStar on Thu, 05/09/2013 - 2:10pm

My parents, especially my Mom, brought us up to have good manners. To say please and thank you and not to interrupt when adults are speaking! I think manners are VERY VERY important in your personal life, in business, in all aspects. Things can be really awful, but a simple please or a thank you can diffuse a bad situation.
I have pretty much disengaged from bringing up manners in front of the skids, unless it is really disgusting or embarassing.

Karma, meet BM

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Submitted by DarkStar on Mon, 05/06/2013 - 11:39am

SO has had full custody of SD14, SD10, and SS9 for 2 years. She voluntarily gave up custody cuz she "couldn't handle them anymore." She is supposed to see them every weekend, she lives 2 hrs away and they meet halfway for dropoffs.

The skids hardly see BM on their visits. After pawning them off on Grandma and Aunt for 2 years, hiding in her bedroom when they were around, and generally neglecting them, she skids have had enough. For the first time, this weekend SD14 complained in a text to SO how BM never does anything with them and hides out in her room.

update on SD cheer squad

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Submitted by DarkStar on Tue, 04/30/2013 - 9:55am

So a couple of girls on the cheer squad quit and SD13 got bumped up the list so she made the cheer squad for next year.
I am very very happy for her. No, REALLY, I am, I swear....and it's the only thing that she really cares about and the only activity she has outside of school.
I wonder if she's learned anything from this little life lesson....probably not. Although she has asked SO to put her in dance class at the tune of about $300 a month. She has done dance class before and quit, just like she has quit everything she's ever done in her life (except cheer).

Love them as if they were your own

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Submitted by DarkStar on Fri, 04/12/2013 - 1:10pm

Ugh. My SO said this to me last night and again today. He has 3 kids from his previous marriage: SS8, SD10, and SD14. SD14 has damaged every adult relationship she has ever had because of her rude behavior and snotty mouth. I have disengaged and it has saved my sanity. I also think it has helped my relationship with SO and the skids. But SO does not understand disengaging. I sent him that excellent article that I found as a link on this site and he just does not get it. How can I explain this so it gets through to him?

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