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Submitted by BMJen on Thu, 12/03/2009 - 9:20pm

I hate that some choose to "knickname" their step kids. Crayon, honey, you know I love you.......I ALWAYS tell everyone how much I do, and that you are in a spot, etc. I understand that this is your only way out, and to "knickname" your step kids is a way to help you have a out. I feel like crap even admitting it...........but I swear, I'm so SICK to my stomach of seeing people ridicule their step kids. THEY ARE KIDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My son's Christmas list.

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Submitted by BMJen on Wed, 12/02/2009 - 6:58pm

DH told him to write a list. We've been teasing him "I know what you got for Christmas, hahahahahaha!" LOL! So he said, well I thought you guys already got me something so why make a list? I said, because we didn't really, we are just teasing you. Of course.......we already have bought him and SD both their gifts!

But anyways...this is his list. It consisted of 5.

1. 120 GB for Hard drive for my Xbox 360.

2. $100.00 spending spree at the mall.

3. New customized skateboard (under $200.00)

4. New pair of shoes.

5. Family & love.

The adventures of Bio Son 14, Chapter 3

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Submitted by BMJen on Tue, 12/01/2009 - 7:57am

Last night was fun fun fun. We had a night packed full of lies, yelling, crying, etc! What fun for a Monday.

DH is a cop, has been for more than 20 years....we had a appt yesterday afternoon and I told my son to stay out of our room (like I should have to tell him, he knows this), but for the sake of my sanity I mentioned it again. Along with the phone and TV. My cop DH decides to "jimmy" the bedroom door so we'll know if he's been in there. He also set up the tv and phones.

I believe I have found the key to helping a troubled teen succeed.

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Submitted by BMJen on Mon, 11/30/2009 - 11:25am

My son is 14. Anyone who keeps up with me knows that he is a royal PITA. He's failing, backtalking, terrible manners, etc. And it's not for a lack of trying on my part, at least so I've said so far. Now I'm beginning to think it was 100% my fault for not doing this sooner.......I've gotten all in his grill (as he says) and really transformed his life, he's not liking it right now.

I cleaned out his room, his entire room. Packed it all up, including his shoes, cloths, underwear, socks, EVERYTHING down to the pics on the wall. Packed up and locked up in our shed.

Someone explaine to me why do parents cave? Step and Bio?

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Submitted by BMJen on Sun, 11/29/2009 - 1:47pm

My childhood was great. The biggest gift I ever recieved from my family was a scooter that costs $400.00. It was awesome, and I loved it and rode it for many years!

My mom didn't get me braces, she couldn't afford it. I did need them, later on in my adult life I got everything taken care of. She didn't buy me a car, I did that. She didn't pay for my wedding, I did that. She couldn't.............and I knew it. I didn't want her to do anything that would put her out-so to speak.

Just a quick update.

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Submitted by BMJen on Wed, 11/18/2009 - 8:45pm

DH is out of the hospital. They let him out yesterday. He's been okay, but very restless. He's tired, but not sleeping to much. He got on the scales and I was shocked to see that he has lost 30 pounds. My goodness, 30 pounds. That's alot. His stomach is still swollen from the sickness. I bet by the time all the swelling goes down he will have lost 40 pounds. The big man that I married is all little now, it's scarey. His appetite is coming back though, he ate good tonight so I'm hoping after a month or so he'll start to put some weight back on.

My baby is out of surgery!!

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Submitted by BMJen on Sun, 11/15/2009 - 7:54pm

He's out. They came and got him at 2:00 today, I sat with him in pre op until 6:00. Apparently the OR that he was going to be in was being used and it was a difficult operation going on. But he went back about 6 and the doc came out right after 8 and told us everything is great. He did good, he's out! If all goes well we can go home Tuesday or Wednesday. If it's Wednesday it'll be 15 days that we've spent in the hospital. Good grief, I can't wait to see my bed! But more important than anything, him and I get to see it together.

I have to say that I do agree, sometimes, with some of the nay sayers. (long)

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Submitted by BMJen on Sat, 11/14/2009 - 1:28pm

I make it a point not to judge anyone here. Because there was a time that I hated SD's. I hated the thought of being around them, when they would come I would cringe, I took everything they did as bad, always a challenge, etc. I found this site and I got advice, I learned, I took it to heart and I changed my situation. My relationship with my YSD 15 is one that is unbreakable now. No matter what ever happens she will always be a part of my life, because I honestly love her. My OSD 21, I can't say love is there, but I respect and like her. She does the same for me.

I figured out something very important recently.

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Submitted by BMJen on Sun, 11/08/2009 - 5:57pm

With my DH in the hospital I had a thought strike me. I will never again bitch about having to get up for work, make dinner, do piles of laundry, etc. Every day spent at our home with a healthy family I will thank the Lord. I've been taking things for granted. My happiness is just pure bliss, but at any moment it could be shattered. I need to remember this for the rest of my life, remember to hold my loved ones so very close to my heart. Of course I always have held my loved ones close to my heart, but this is a different thing to me.

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