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Said my piece

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In a previous post I vented about BM showing up at MY house unannounced. The last time was the last straw. Well, the b*tch did it again tonight. Even though BM and skids were told they needed to OK BMs unscheduled arrivals with me or DH they did not. Skids think they can just call BM over whenever they feel necessary. It doesn't work that way. I called her after she left and told her if she ever shows up at my house again without OK from me or DH, I will have her arrested for tresspassing. I mean what I say and say what I mean.

Sorry that I sometimes go

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from one extreme to the next. But do any of you feel like us as stepparents might be a little bit selfish? I mean we ask our DH or DW to change their attitude, why don't we change ours. Maybe like, I don't give a Sh*t what you do, I'm gonna do me. Just wondering???? That's how I feel. F*ck all this drama. I'm hot and I can go and do whatever. I'm being vain, sorry. I'm just fed up with DH, his ex skank, the skids and their drama I seem to have been drawn into.

Going back

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I've been a little down this past week, because I feel my HB doesn't support me when it matters. I was looking at all of my past blogs and just sobbing. Nearly every one of them are repeated later on down the road. To me that is a sign that it's not getting better like I may have thought. The same issues are ongoing. I just can't get over the fact that the person whom I married and made vows with is still so wipped by his ex! It makes me wonder if it was really over. I can't even look at him, touch him or be intimate with him the way I should as a wife.

Alone

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Why is it that the one person who is suppose to listen to you and have your back doesn't? The person who is suppose to be in love with you basically tells you you're on your own when it comes to his ex. I can vent on here, vent to my friends and I get feed back, something DH gives me nothing. He turns a blind eye when BM does something towards me or him or the skids. I just want to say geez thanks. It changes the way I see him. He just doesn't understand. A few weeks ago my ex called me some names. I told DH, he was all over it. BM has been calling me names and he does nothing.

This shouldn't be an issue but of course it is

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I just can't seem to let things go. SS12 and SD9 come home after the weekend with their precious mother. SS12 informs me and HB that we need to make him a eye doc appointment and his mommy dearest will pay for it. I say to SS well, why doesn't your mom make the appointment and take you, afterall she is your mom. He gets pissed at me and says I don't know. Who does BM think she is trying to order us around through SS? I left it at that. Then today, BM pulls in the drive during dinner and skids leave their plates and run outside. I'm like WTF!!!! I had no idea she was stopping by.

Hb has my back

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Yesterday, SS12 and I got into an argument. He got angry and bowed up to me fists raised. He was going to punch me. So I pushed his little punk ass into the bath tub, he fell and started crying. I said "don't you ever raise your hand to me or you will regret it." I told DH about it and he says I did the right thing by asserting myself. What do you guys think?

Maybe someone here can help!

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Where do I need to begin the process of contempt of court? HB ex is suppoose to pay 50% of uncovered health costs within 30 days of recieving a bill. She has not done that. This is not the first time. We have allowed her to slide by several times. This is it. I can't get any response from Att. Gen. about anything. Maybe I'm being petty, she only owes $15 but that is not the point in my opinion. The last time it was $80 and it took her 3 months to pay. The order states that if it's not paid in the alloted time she has to reimburse the whole amount. What do you think?

It never fails

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I have been pretty content with the way things have been going in my household. But for some reason today just blew up in my face. SS12 and BS8 were playing ball in the house and broke a mirror on the wall. I was going to punish both for not following the rules of not playing ball in the house. I punish BS8. Then when I go to do the same to SS12 he flips out. Screams in my face. Says he's going to kill himself. Then he says to me, his mom is the only one who cares about him. He takes off and has his nanny down the road take him to his moms house.

Ok, Ok, Ok

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Let me put it to you straight. BM seems to think that when her part on a medical bill is due she can reimburse us when she feels like it. Well, DH and I are just plain tired of her thinking we owe her the benefit of a payment plan. I sent her and email and it goes like this......

Coming to terms with my role

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In the beginning of this roller coaster ride of stepmom I was at arms all of the time. If something didn't go the way I thought it should I would get angry and it would affect my relationship with my DH. Only because I didn't agree with his nonchalant attitude. Don't get me wrong I will stand up for myself when my time is affected but I'm not going to get involved in BMs ignorance. I think she is a terrible parent, that's MY opinion, no one elses. I have thrown many a fit trying to get BM to be a better parent.

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