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Well I'm back to disengaging again :/

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Submitted by always_anxious on Thu, 06/08/2017 - 2:01pm

SD21's attention seeking is now invading our home again. She is being treated for addiction and psychiatric issues. She wanted to meet with daddy-- who she has barely talked to for the last 3 years, mostly holidays-- and tell him about her evaluation visit. Perhaps I am jaded, but I see nothing positive coming from any of this except her milking the attention and using it as an excuse for not doing for herself. I mean even her dumb BM is now texting SO saying this very thing! Which probably explains why she is coming to SO for attention.

Step parent to drug addict?

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Submitted by always_anxious on Wed, 06/07/2017 - 10:14am

I'd really like to hear how you all are dealing with or have dealt with this. I've been around a lot of addicts and users. I have always cut them off and moved on. SD21 is supposedly starting rehab soon for the first time. I don't see it working. SO and SS18 are of course going to try to be supportive, but I just don't even want her around me or my BS

ETA: she was drug tested and they found opioids and xanax in her system. She's a frequent marijuana smoker, since about 15.

SD21 is, unfortunately, turning out as predicted

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Submitted by always_anxious on Tue, 05/30/2017 - 12:51pm

Well, it no fun when you end up right sometimes. SO got messages from BM. SD21 is back living with BM (was living with boyfriend). She had some sort of breakdown and they drug tested her. Found 3 prescription meds that she has no prescription for. BM is just now telling us all of this is going on. SD doesn't talk to her dad much. BM never tells SO there is problem with the kids, until its just so far gone that no one knows what to do and professional help is needed.

#2: SD and Karma-- Welcome Karma I didn't expect you so soon

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Submitted by always_anxious on Mon, 04/03/2017 - 3:20pm

SD21 has a boyfriend. SO and I just met him the other day. He doesn't look like he could be more than 24 at best. Two kids, ages 2&4. He obviously isn't that involved with his children and SD was complaining about Biomom.

On the way home SO complains that he had kids. I said well, I'm gonna enjoy the karma. I hope they are both girls and just as snotty as she was. HAHAHAHA

I like how he acted as if I was the mean one.

#1 So frustrated today-- with SO about SS18 graduation

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Submitted by always_anxious on Mon, 04/03/2017 - 3:16pm

For the last two months I have felt sorry for SS18. Neither his mother or his father have done anything to prepare for his graduation. SS18 ordered his own cap and gown. He didn't order announcements because he knew no one would pay for them. There's a big retreat where parents can write a nice letter to their child they open at the retreat. Neither parent will be doing the letter. A couple weeks ago I tried to go ahead and get involved with getting him announcements and Sr. Photos.

Well crap, the "good" skid is no longer

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Submitted by always_anxious on Mon, 11/14/2016 - 11:48am

SS17 and I have always gotten along. Good in school, listens, responsible.

Until 2 years ago when we found out he was drinking and smoking pot at his moms. We took him out of her house and moved him with us. He's been on track with college prep courses and college applications.

Well, friday we get the call from the principal. The boy was plastered on school campus at a football game. We never knew him and his friends were getting drunk tailgating at the school games. So now... we are waiting to hear if he's expelled.

Depressed or Spoiled Brat?

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Submitted by always_anxious on Mon, 05/02/2016 - 2:19pm

or both??

SO, SO's mom, SS are always talking about how depressed SD20 is. "She is having trouble." Ok, I'm sure that sucks for her. She's seeing a counselor, good for her. But, it got me thinking about depression and the source-- specifically for overindulged children with guilty dads.

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