Last night was rough DH and I got into a heated discussion regarding the placement plan, CS, tax deductions and a bunch of other things stepkid related. How it started - DH brought up letting BM have the tax deduction for SS12. We normally claim him on our taxes and BM claims SS8 on hers. So she would be claiming both SSons on her taxes.

This upset me and I was trying to explain my feelings to DH but he wasn’t listening. DH’s exact words were “it’s a one time thing to help her out.” When he uttered those words I lost it. The conversation went something like this:

since our blogs are getting so long these days, and i love to laugh and exchange back and forth with my fellow church going drunk dirty bitches....it seems that if there is a new post on the second...or third page, when i got to the second page, there are no longer the red "new" notifications....the i have to read through all the bs to get to the good stuff i actually care about.

is this just my computer?

During DH & BMs phone conversation last night, BM asked DH about BM flying SD15 up over Spring Break next month. And also stated that BM was going to also fly SD15s bf up to. DH & I had already discussed this flying thing and decided that with everything that SD15 has been through & done since she's been here, we are not allowing her to fly alone. And definitely not over Spring Break when that is not an agreed upon visit in the court order. And definitely not alone with SD15s bf. Well instead of DH telling BM this, he just says I'll let ya know.

SD15 got invited to a sleepover birthday party at a hotel room this Saturday. DH & I told SD15 no. Well SD15 wasn't happy with that and told BM about it, who is 1100 miles away and has no say in these type of decisions anymore since we have custody of SD15. Well BM called DH last night and started trying to convince DH into changing his mind about letting SD15 go. DH told BM it would be different if this girl's parents were not alcoholics & would be there the entire time. But since we can't guarantee that would happen, our answer is no.

Don't you guys find it funny how when ONE person comes on here and gets pissed off WE are all the crazy ones?? I feel like I'm talking to myself when I was an angry teenager. I personally have never had ANYONE (i'm yelling) "gang up" on me. Everyone has given me great advice and exchanged witty banter. I just thought that was a little ironic..

I have not seen StepTalk hoppin this much in a while. Or maybe it is that I have not been on as much in the past 6mos due to work issues.

I getting some great Stalker time in today with the 4-6ft snow drifts in front of the front and back doors to our house. I have to say that even though the Skid flunking out of Military School has put some strain on the Rags family home life it is good to have a healthy 17yo to work the shovel.

Go freeze your ass of for a few more hours Skid! }:)

in November..
BM has been dodging them, hanging up on them and refused to get SS assesed by this group of people.
Today we find out that BM was requesting SS's bathroom habits from the teacher and the teacher let us know that she thinks it's because BM is going to tell the Psychologist that the reason why SS's behavior is the way it is/SS reverting back to soiling himself etc is because of DH and I- and she showed the teacher a letter from the psychologist today stating that he's been to the facility although we don't know if he was actually seen or not-

Happy Birthday to Me!!!!

46 and still lovin life, my wife and my Son (SS). Though I have to say I have seen enough snow for a while.

I have been snowed in the house and working (occasionally) from home for three days. The three of us are making it a point to be in different rooms since we are getting sick of being locked in together.

But, as I said. It is the greatest day of the year. The only problem with this birth day is that I am now undeniably closer to 50 than 40.

Hey, I am a man and we just get more distinguished with age.

SD is manipulative. My husband doesn't see it that way. He just thinks she is being a regular 12y/o girl. She has practice today which I have to take her you. Currently, I don't even want to be around her. But thats hard to do because she lives with us. She asked if I could pick up her friend for practice. Come to find out the friend's mother thought BM was taking them to practice. Since I'm 'the outsider' the friend's mother said "Oh, I didn't know it was you, its ok I can find a ride for her". Not that I really felt like going out of the way to pick up/drop off someone else anyway.

Hi everyone. Well, the sd won. I am a newlywed. Only 5 months. But, my sd has caused so much damage that I am now leaving. I feel so very alone and terrified. Hoping some of you will keep me company through this ordeal. This 14 year old kid is TOXIC. I feel sorry for anyone who has to deal with her and grateful that I will no longer have to deal with the abuse. I will be bankrupt after moving my WONDERFUL daughters back to Wyoming. I have no job waiting for me...and we will be moving in with my mom. The best woman I know! My tears won't stop falling.