I've been reading a lot of posts and blogs today and I have to say, we are an angry bunch of ladies today (I include myself in that!) And I am grateful that we all don't typically have "that time of the month" at the same time. I think the results would be more chatostrophic(sp?) then a nuclear bomb.

Before I get started, please let me preface this blog by saying this is in NO WAY a BM Sux blog, or talk negative about OP blog. This is a request for advice.

Hubby and I filed to have his child support lowered while he is in school. He is not working because he wants to focus all of his attention on school so that he can do well. I completely understand this, as I went to school full-time and worked full-time and it was HELL. My grades suffered and my education suffered. If I had it to do over again, I would not have worked so much.

My fiance had a conversation with his ex, you know the fling that ended up pregnant? Before talking to me about it he asked if my step daughter will be allowed around me when I am breastfeeding our child. In my opinion, this is none of her business untill it becomes an issue. I feel that breastfeeding is a privet thing between mother and child so I plan to have a big comfy chair in the nursery where I can be alone. (I'm only 18 weeks preggo) It really hurt me that he would talk to her about it first.

that their Dad doesn't care about them when they're at their mom's?

that their Dad makes no effort to contact them at BM's?

that their Dad is a "part-timer" and actually calls their Dad that to his face?

that Dad has a new family that we're not part of?

My SDs used to think this and it seems as though perhaps some of the other skids we blog about here do also. How do you handle it, and how does your partner handle it (I'm sure it hurts him a lot).

I'm newish to this whole "mom/stepmom" thing so any advice would be great.

I'm wondering when should a child begin to have a sense of modesty, and what is privet? My 3 1/2 year old step daughter was drawing pictures with her dad this weekend, he said he was going to draw her. She asked him to draw her bum, he said "Well no". Then she asked him to draw her 'doodie" (the word her mother has taught her for vagina). This little conversation bothers me.

I think i really find this theraputic. So I am going to go on again. I think it is mostly for my benefit. Well life is getting to be a little beter at home. My fiance has talked to his wife, and tried to get her off his insurance. WEll neither worked, but at least he tried. NOw it is time to hire an attorney I guess. Seems like such a big move. It just seems as if the wife, or ex-wife per'se will lie to get anything and everything she wants.

Sorry for being a bloghog, but I have questions today....

In my case what I get from my X I think is fair since he only sees our son once a month or so, not even always overnight. So guidelines seem to be fair in that sence, my home provides 99%+ of the food, shelter, clothing, extras, time.

But in my Dh's case, he has the skids every weekend. He feeds them 7 meals a week and spends 32 awake hours with them.
BM has them M-F, she feeds them 9 meals a week and spends 14 awake hours with them.

To just take a night to myself? Maybe a hotel room or a friends house? I dont even want to deal with constant SD guilt. URGH I dont know what to do

are there any other step talk members from south africa?