stressed knowing that in about 2 hours ss12 will be back home, I had such a wonderful weekend just hanging out with my children , no fighting, they were helpful, no backtalking, no hateful comments, no shit disturbing, just a really nice peacefull weekend, now it's over!
why should I have to live with 5 days of hell just to get 2 days of peace, everyother weekend, on the other weekend it is worse than hell with both ss's here.
I just hope it gets better, another 6 years of this, I don't know if I can take it!!

So I am new to this site and thought i would say hello and tell everyone my situation. I have a stepson who is 7. We have a wonderful relationship. I love him to pieces, he means the world to me. We are very close and i have never looked at him like a "stepson". My husband and i have had a rough road but finally seem to be figuring it all out and are doing great. The BM is a complete bitch and psycho. to be blunt! We live in MA and it is very hard to get custody from a mother when the 2 were not married and we have sunk close to $10,000.00 into it and have had to stop.

We all say it...typically right before we say something offensive. Why is it that we think that just because we say "no-offense" we can then proceed to say ANYTHING we want and the person HEARING the aforementioned offensive remark has no right to be angry. I mean after all, we said no offense right?

I find myself living two lives.....one happy with hubby alone and at peace and the other one stressful and feeling unhappy when the ss13 comes over.......he makes the days he is here very streeful and nasty by creating lots of drama, bad behavior and gets his dad be in a bad mood.......I hate seeing the mess he makes and he doesn't pick up after himself and makes us repeat things over and over and he still does what he wants....its all about him......and only about him.......so I know have happy days when he is not here and happy days when he is not.....Does this happend to you too?

Some persons believe that wishing BM dead is socially unacceptable, and I firmly believe that they are all entitled to their opinion.

However, aren't we really HERE because the socially acceptable understanding of step-family life just doesn't cut it for us stepparents?

Aren't we here so that we can do what is socially unacceptable and VENT e.g. call BM that demeaning name we want to, or admit to hating the Skids, or complain about how unfair the system is etc. while we search for the answers to make our situations better or for the courage to leave unfixable situations?

My boyfriend’s 30th birthday is coming up. What should be a simple task: planning a surprise party, has turned into a high school drama disaster event. In my first entry, I tried to explain the childishness of some of his family members and friends. Unfortunately I think I made him inadvertently look like the bad guy and while I do sometimes consider leaving and living a much less complicated life, it is obvious that I’m not going to. He is a really good guy and although he does hate the drama his friends create, they are still his friends.

My last two blogs were pretty easy to understand. I moved out of FMIL's where FH has to reside until I can get out of school and take over the business and pay our mortgage. (We'll have our own house by this time next yeeaarr! Finally!)

FMIl has gone mad. she is really angry that i moved out. FH has been keeping the kids away from her as much as possible. my last blog summed up real quick:

A quick background - My parents split 12 years ago - typical teenager I gave my SM and BD a major problem everytime I went there. BM would tell me how terrible my dad and SM were (PAS to the EXTREME! - took me 10 years AND my DH to open my eyes to it, and I was able to mend the hurt that I caused - we hadn't spoken in close to 5-6 years, then would speak minimally, and just in the last 2 years I have had a decent relationship with BD and SM).

This wkd SS8 spent the night at a friends house so we todl SS5 that it was b/c we wanted to spend special time with him. We took him to the harbor for ice cream and to a special dinner. So on the drive home, SS5 is talking about a variety of things as normal. When we got home, I was doing laundry and I hear SS5 tell DH out of the blue b/c they were talking about Wonder Pets that he wants BM's b/f, CJ, to move out so that they can have the place to themselves. So DH said you dont like CJ? SS5 goes no I do, but him and Mommy yell at each other all the time and their faces get red.

I'm new to this site, and I am glad there is a forum for us to share our experiences as step-parents.
My boyfriend and I have been dating since July 2008. He is in the military and he was stationed in a different city between March 2009 and January 2010. I visited him twice a month during that time. It was always like a honeymoon.
He has a 10yrd old daughter that he totally adores. We just moved into a new house in February and his daughter came to live with us on March 5th. The little girl doesn't get along with her biological mother and step-brothers... long story.