I have decided that I'm not going to get married....at least not for the next 6 years anyway till ss turns 18.

I have 2 BDs. My skids live with me. Dh has been suggesting that we try to have a baby of our own, being we don't have any together. My BDs are twins and for 7 years have been my world, center of attention and my life. I feel very pulled on whether or not to have another child. On one hand I would love to have another baby and share that with DH and on the other I feel like in some way I would be betraying my BDs. I have no idea why I feel like this and just want to know if this is normal? I don't want them to feel like I don't want them or love them less..

I just called the Texas OAG and they have some automated info about establishing paternity...it states that if mother is married, husband is presumed father of child born...unless bf signs doc at hospital to establish paternity...BUT it states that husband must ALSO sign form negating paternity! Are u kidding? I know dh never did this or even knew about it...plz someone tell me that crazy's kids don't have any way to go back to my dh later to get inheritance, cs, etc...I feel sick to my stomach hearing this!

I am jealous of Princess....no doubt. I hate myself for it. I do question myself though. I had a SD from a previous marriage, I was not that way at all. I really enjoyed her. I never felt any of the feelings I am feeling now. Perhaps it is the situation...My ex-husband gave her a lot of attention when she was there...we planned our weekends around her...I actually missed her when she wasn't around. What gives??? I can only think it is the difference in the personalities. Princess thinks about no one but herself. She is possibly the most annoying child I have ever been around.

This is off-topic but I'd love some advice on how to settle down my own impatient thoughts.

I love, love, love, love my stepkids (SS2 and SD5), and if anything, they've shown me that I definitely want my own children. It kills me to see them to go to their BM's!

I need some advice from fellow stepparents. It seems like when BM starts playing dirty and DH and I both get frustrated by her acts, I'm the one left still feeling angry or frustrated. He gets angry too, but lets it go because he feels like he can't win in situations. I do feel like DH and I are a team, but it drives me crazy with the amount of control that he allows BM to have. I've told DH before that he can't have it both ways with me.

What do you think ladies?
Kids are on Summer Vacation for 6 weeks in July.

They are with their mother half the time of course.

But the other 3 weeks – she wants them to go to their Dads who lives about 1.5 hours away.

3 weeks at their Dads – but Dad is working for those 3 weeks.

Do you not think its better that they spend a week with their Dad.

The other 2 weeks will be spent at home so they can mix with their friends.

Does having kids of your own help you to understand or hinder your understanding of BM? Do you think it helps you to understand her better regarding how she feels about the kids, or does it hinder how you feel about her? Does it increase your dislike for her? If so, why?

When I was pregnant, I remember thinking, "I'd never use my kid as a pawn against DH like BM does with SDs."

How does being a BM yourself impact your relationship with/thoughts of the skids' BM(s)?

SS11 got his first pimple today.

I feel like having a panic attack. I am not ready for this!

What comes next?

Isn't 11 a little early?

SD6 has a little sister from BM who is almost a year. She is having a really hard time adjusting with it. Christmas was very hard (having to share the spotlight at BM's with a new sibling). And she has been acting out at school.

BM signed her up to meet with the school psychologist. SD feels that BM pays 'attention to the baby' and she isn't 'happy about it'. SD meets with this women whenever she wants.