I found this site just a few days ago and I can't stay away from it. I have been with my boyfriend (BF) for 6 years, but split up three times. BF truley has the ex from hell - spawn of satan! BF has an only child and I have 4 children. We have many problems, most of our problems come from BF ex and his lack of putting BM in her place. I believe it is BM's goal to keep us apart and make our lives miserable.She doesnt want him and she has moved on and has another child with someone else.As you read this you will probably think that I am making it up, but I am not.

I read BM's messages to DH sometimes. She'd say things like she misses him. He has a family with her.

I made it clear that shit has to stop. He said, after much hesitation, that it has. I haven't snooped. Haven't checked his phone. Stopped caring.

Today, in the heat of an argument, I checked his phone.

No outgoing messages BUT a message from BM:

"I know. I miss you too."

I can't believe this. I don't know how to rationalize.

Hello all,

I just wanted to ask everyone a few questions. Sorta've a poll:

1.) Does your BF/GF, Wife/Husband etc. treat you differently when the skids are there?
2.) How does it make you feel to be treated differently?
3.) Has is really affected your relationship?
4.) Have you ever considered leaving the relationship because of the skids?
5.) Do you & your BF/GF, Wife/Husband fight over BM consistently?

I just wanted to see how everyone else would answer these.
Thanks.

so im a big fat hypocrite. i opened my mouth at tball because the team mom and i hit it off and she mentioned the end of year party, before i could even stop myself i had offered our home since we have a pool. then i realized it was bm's weekend....i didnt want to say oh wait i need to check that bm wont be a crazy beotch and not allow ss to come so i had dh ask bm about it.

Apparently I missed something somewhere in the last 24 hours...Lots of negativity filled blogs! I know I know I'll be the first one to be negative lately but! ever since we found out about the house things have been terrific between DH and I! I have completely 'disengaged' (ignored) BM for the last few days and I feel a lot better about myself since seperating from her bad vibes and highschool behavior. I haven't seen SD for about 2 weeks now, which has also made me feel better and given me time to think of how I want to approach some of her behavior.

and I can't wait to start reading it. I really hope it helps me to make sure I'm not being an idiot with most of our dealings with BM. However, I do see her side of things very easily, I just don't necessarily agree with them.

For example...last night BM asks us if we can take the kids for a few hours. Sure! We love taking the kids. My fiance told her we might as well just keep the kids overnight if they are going to be at our house until 7:30/8 anyways. BM agrees and says "Thanx!" (Sorry...just can't stand the x's and lol's and kewl's)

The good news...I found out yesterday that I got the term job I applied for! It sucks thinking about being off maternity leave and not being with my baby girl all day, but at least it's for a good job with awesome pay and it is super close to home.

hey all id like some info on PAS.does anyone have a web address that could be helpful?

I had such a wonderful weekend 'cause the step kids were with their mom. It's so messed up because of the little brat, this weekend was the first time EVER that I got to slow dance with my husband.
it was so wonderful and now they are back and things are back to normal. everything being annoying. the brat crying and screaming for everything. I wish that I could make him see how it really is.
how bratty she is, what an attention whore she is. he says he sees it but he does nothing about it.