SD is manipulative. My husband doesn't see it that way. He just thinks she is being a regular 12y/o girl. She has practice today which I have to take her you. Currently, I don't even want to be around her. But thats hard to do because she lives with us. She asked if I could pick up her friend for practice. Come to find out the friend's mother thought BM was taking them to practice. Since I'm 'the outsider' the friend's mother said "Oh, I didn't know it was you, its ok I can find a ride for her". Not that I really felt like going out of the way to pick up/drop off someone else anyway.