When I first met DH, I knew that he has a grown daughter going to college. He was supporting her and trying to help her to finish it. He said he made a promise to his daughter that he will help her to the end (college). I agreed and thought he was a responsible father. Man, was I wrong. Now, a year later, she had finish her college, but still no job coming (guess who is fliping the bill). In the beginning our relationship, I thought I can deal with it. I mean she's not living with us. How bad can it be? Was I wrong! I thought she can final get the hell out of his pocket book.

So it's not a big deal compared to other things. And I should be grateful that I haven't had to see ss as much lately. At least one visit the last two months dh has spent visitation with ss at mil's while the kids and I stay home. (we live in a different town than ss and it is just MUCH easier notto travel with 3 kids!) It is just how things have worked out and I have enjoyed only seeing ss once a month! Anyway, this weekend he comes again. Unfortunately Halloween is on Sunday- travel day. Meaning dh leaves by 4 to get ss home at 6 then gets back home a little after 8.

Curious if there are any evil or fantastic stepdads here and your perspectives. To be fair, am I just one of those evil step moms who thinks her kids are perfect (they're not) while yours stink? I'm tempted to point dh to this site to read other dads situations, but not sure we have many dads here?

This has been a particularly trying week with SS13. This morning at breakfast, he proclaimed, "This isn't even a family. It's me and my dad, and you."

Tomorrow night won't come soon enough for me.

A year into dating my future husband, we were serious looking into getting married. But a phone call arrived and my FH was being told he needed to have a paternity test. Well to make a long story short, the child was his...a product of a one night stand. So here we are together, trying to support one another as our lives are turned upside down. I love him and told him that we should put off any engagement for a year. A year later, he decideds it is time to propose. Of course I said yes because I love him with every ounce of my heart.

the knock on the door tomorrow at 9AM when SS5 is dropped off.
dealing with SS5 Stepdad.
the 10 minutes it takes for SS5 to climb into car & put on seatbelt (& another 10 minutes to climb out.)
the eventual inevitable whine "Iiimmmmmm Huuuuunnnnnnggggggrrryyyyyyyyy......."
the crying that will start when SS5 cannot figure out how to turn on TV/change channel/etc.
BS9's reaction when he realizes it is a SS5 day.
BS9's frustration when SS5 insists on following him everywhere, every minute - even into the bathroom.

Date night itself went great, dinner and a movie and generally good all around. Except. I apparently have strep/ear infection/who-knows-what. I was bound and determined to go out--first time in a month! We'd been going out a couple times a week, so this has been a big change.

so i had my shower today and BM calls mother and law and asks if she can pick up SS and my DH picks up the phone and says no amd my MIL calls her back and says she can come so she shows up and ruines the whole thing makes a big scene of my DH yelling at her to leave and her yelling at SS to get in the car then MIL is like what she is my friend and the mother of my grandson "SO WHAT! this party is not yours to invite her too so i kicked BM and MIL out of my house and SS stayed man what a day

I work 3rd shift and get home around 5:15am at which point I watch a little TV and wind down before bed. This is also the only time I have to enjoy peace in my home when SD is here. This morning I got home and put on my jammies and started one of my shows online. At 5:30 SD5 walks into the livingroom. I told her it was too early for her to be up and to go back to bed and try to sleep. The little brat told me no and turned the TV on. I was livid.

I am so glad to find this site, I have been a step-mother for 8 years now, I am married to my first husband, he has 3 children from 2 other women prior to me, that we raise together and we have 3 biological children. Life in our household has been very difficult throughout the years and very rewarding as well. We live in a small town, so most know what goes on, I have always felt so alone in the way I feel and the many trials that I have had to go through as a step-parent. I work really hard at looking from all sides of a situation.