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Submitted by Iwantmylifebackj on Wed, 10/27/2010 - 8:33pm

So, stupid me.. I decided to text H and see if there is anything left or ang changes. He indicated that he's going to call me soon and blah..blah.. blah.. Well, apparent his D needs a ride. So, he is not coming home to talk. F***, I am so angry. It's still the same old bull crap.. He just does not get it.. I am done being the second. Well, that's just too bad. I did not return any contact after that bull shit. Done!

I thought I was different, but I was WRONG....

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Submitted by Iwantmylifebackj on Sun, 10/24/2010 - 1:12pm

When I first met DH, I knew that he has a grown daughter going to college. He was supporting her and trying to help her to finish it. He said he made a promise to his daughter that he will help her to the end (college). I agreed and thought he was a responsible father. Man, was I wrong. Now, a year later, she had finish her college, but still no job coming (guess who is fliping the bill). In the beginning our relationship, I thought I can deal with it. I mean she's not living with us. How bad can it be? Was I wrong! I thought she can final get the hell out of his pocket book.

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Submitted by Iwantmylifebackj on Sat, 10/23/2010 - 4:42pm

I was searching for an answer about what happens when a man needs to chose between his wife and adult children. I wanted to share with everyone. I saw a ray of hope for my marriage, and hope that I'll have good ending. This is what I found. The man was asking about what to do about his marriage.

http://forum.parent24.com/yaf_postst539p4_New-wife-ask-me-to-choose-betw...

What's next????

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Submitted by Iwantmylifebackj on Sat, 10/23/2010 - 4:22pm

So, I did the brave thing send DH packing to move into his SD's apartment. He did tried to contact twice (threating he is not going to pay for certain things). I have not respond. Not sure what's next. Need some advise.

What is wrong with this world?

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Submitted by Iwantmylifebackj on Sat, 10/23/2010 - 11:09am

I have no children with DH. I read so many posting about guilt-driven parenting. Certainly, that is the case with DH (paying for $2000 per month rent for a year for a college grad, who does not have a job). I just don't understand. I know that children are treasure and blessing. However, children, who are treasure and blessings, does not let their parents suffer the consequences with the choices that they are making. I tried to make sense of all this. I talked to DH again and again about responsible parenting.

Finally, I stood up for myself....

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Submitted by Iwantmylifebackj on Wed, 10/20/2010 - 10:51pm

I am new to this site. I had been married for my DH for about two years now. I finally have the guts to tell him what I really think about SD. He is an enabler. SD is 23 years old and graduated from college for almost a year now. Right after her graduation, DH and her decided that she needs to find another apartment closer to where she wants to work, which is about $2000 without a roomate. I told DH that it is not a wise decision because she has not find a job yet and 2000 is a big committment. However, it's his money. She moved in and a year later she still can not find a job.