** As a short preface, because this thing is so long, I will explain that my SD11 is an only child living with a custodial father who feels she's 'gifted' (even though she didn't have the scores to put her in the 'gifted' program; he blamed the school, of course). She refuses to follow simple requests without wanting to know 'why'; she has a 'meltdown' every time she is given a consequence for bad behavior on her part; and she lets her 'daddy' know how mean 'mommy' is to her when her mother tries to set boundaries and give her structure.**

Well here it goes.
Do you remember all the times I was insulted by your daughter and you said nothing? When I wanted to set simple rules for her and you said she is just a child?

I'm so glad to have found this place. I've been struggling lately, so it is nice to find others that are going through similar situations. This is probably going to be long, sorry in advance.

Two days after DH and I were married SS got REALLY sick. He was hospitalized for 3 days and at one point his heart stopped and they had to resuscitate him. He has had kidney problems since he was born and has had several operations, but this was definitely the worst!!

Just wondering if anyone had regrets when they've left a relationship. I've only left a few, and no regrets, well, except for some nostalgia from my divorce d/t growing up with my ex and having my kids. Still, I know we're not a great match.

It's hard to reconcile loving someone and not being able to have a life with them...

DH and I went out and did some Christmas shopping today. While we were out he brings up ss22. I don't remember how, but I remember thinking, "What does this have to do with anything? Why are we ALWAYS talking about YOUR kids?" He proceeds to tell me that ss22's car is parked at sd20's apartment. I asked him what's wrong with it... the kid has no gas. I said, "Well, I guess he will figure it out." DH says, "He has no job." I said, "Well, yeah, what's new? If he wanted gas, he'd figure out how to get it.

That's what I said to FDH. First, let me say, we currently do not live together as another room is being added and I have told FDH, that even after it was finished, until he gets control of his house, I would not be moving in, we were supposed to move in in December. FSD said I wouldn't talk to her on Thanksgiving day or yesterday. That she tried and I wouldn't talk to her. I told FDH really? Because I was sitting there talking with your niece and her boyfriend and she never came over to the table. If you don't believe me, why don't you call your niece and ask her.

I found these three posts very interesting and thought provoking. Before being in this relationship and becoming a SM, I never thought much about these issues other than to give Barbie the BOOT

SO, tough week, with FSD around all week, lots of hectic evenings. SO of course BM still in hospital and changed plans so the one Thanksgiving Day we would be just him and his family got changed for her to be with us. THat's fine-just always last minute change around-I knew it.
I had a wonderful time at his family's..they are awesome people, made me feel SO welcome and comfortable. Was really exceptional. At least I know I"m getting into a family who's IN-laws adore me and respect me and would always have my back.

I used to be married. I owened a house with my ExH...we divorced and it took him about 3 years to get the house shit together (getting my name off the loan, etc)...it was a long, long process. During part of that time, I was with my now DH. He assisted me in getting my lazy exH moving with the house crap. Finally, a year or so ago, it was taken care of..
Fast Forward...