Yes, when SD or SS come to visit, I am indeed instantly triggered. This time, upon SS visit, I am there to be acknowledged but pretty much otherwise ignored. Not one question about anything whatsoever about me. I ask and show interest.. so, I was pouty... I don't hide my feelings well. Later, I share with DH that these visits are triggering. He responded by demanding I stop it because it doesn't help the family and most certainly not us... oh and yes, it's been over a decade, so just stop it! Wow, hmmm..supportive, thank you...that felt like s***!  
 

DH just SCREWED himself over entirely. Two weeks ago he put in writing (text message) to BOTH SD and BM that he would allow enrollment at BM's high school. Essentially allowing SD15 to move in with BM full time and her visiting on the weekends. He sent over a copy of her SS card and vaccine record. They both said thanks and BM confirmed she started the process and scheduled an annual physical to have on file. 

You've read my endless blogs about SD63 and the misery she has put me thru over 50 years.  Last time I blogged, I was surprised by the way she helped with DH88 at my mom's funeral and the good way she acted throughout.  An aberration, I cynically thought.

Now, we are facing the need for DH to get a heart valve replacement.  After the June appointment, he refused.  Actually, I don't think he understood the doctor saying it would be fatal if he didn't cuz when we left the Drs office, he said, "Well, that went well".  I said, "NO, it didn't!".

Today is my son's 33rd B-day.   31yrs ago yesterday we were in court defending the fraudulent custody suit initiated by SpermGrandHag under a forged Spermidiot signature.  

That was 5days after our wedding.

So, I got my dad papers just over 31yrs ago, and 31 years ago today my kid turned 2.

11yrs and ~5mos ago, the adoption papers were signed.  On that day, it was "Congratulations, it is a bouncing baby 22yo."

SO's daughter (turns 26 in a month) had a baby 5 months ago. She sends a lot of pics, both to my SO and to me. I reply with "Awww, cute!" But. Evilly, I want to say "She'd be a lot cuter if the pics weren't of BM holding her." Almost every one.

Today finds things peaceful and glowing with hope.

But first let me backtrack a little...

I'm dying right now because 8 months later and the creepy old couple that let Little Idiot (SD25) move in with them are now packing up and moving out of their own apartment. Haha you can't make this up. 8 months of living with Little Idiot and they are the ones vacating the premises. Could it be that she's a leech who does zero to help out around the house? They were probably doing all the cooking and cleaning while she just paid a small portion of the rent.

Its like when you get a extreme black mold infestation in your house, the only thing to do is burn it down and start over.

I guess it is true that it’s about the journey rather than the destination. Recently, I thought a lot about how removing toxicity in our lives makes room for the good stuff (wrote about it here). It’s so true. It’s like decluttering our space, opening the windows, and letting in clean cool fresh air. Sigh.

31 years of making our life of adventure and love for the ages together.   

In 31 years together we have raised a man of character, honor, and standing in his life, his profession, and his community.  Thank you for making me a dad and letting me be his dad.

SD’s visit is coming to a close with her birthday today and her going back to BM’s tomorrow. It has been an up and down visit. There has been a lot of positive, but there definitely has been some negative. Pretty soon after my last blog, we had a situation where it came out that SD “is scared of DH because DH stole her sister’s dog and because he can be a loud person.” Apparently since we put an end to BM’s narrative of DH being the sister’s Dad, etc. her new narrative is that DH stole the sister’s dog.