Morningmia recently wrote a powerful post about kindness—specifically, the selfishless and thankless kindness that a stepparent gives to their skids. The kind of kindness that’s poured out endlessly, even when it’s met with nothing but resistance, indifference, or outright hostility.

The responses to her post were like a collective sigh of shared experience—a raw, honest summary of what happens when good people try to extend love and kindness to those who have no intention of reciprocating it, and in fact, wish them nothing but harm.

Praise be sweet mother of god, the Sdiablas have offically left the country. They hung around our home on and off over the Summer and Fall "like a fart that lingers." Since they are both transcient I was afraid they'd be stinking, I mean staying, over the Winter and Spring as well. It is a big relief that they are far, far away for at least a little while.

We had a nice telephone visit/catch-up with the SKid a few days ago.  We covered a ton of topics in a casual banter filled conversation of nearly 2hrs.

We talked about just about everything.  One thing that he touched on briefly was that he did not want his mom and me to ever move to SpermLand and if something happened to me he would not let his mom go back even to live near her own family.  This was his position entirely and not at my behest.  Though I completely agree with him.

Recent blogs/posts in here got me thinking about kindness.

Hey, all! It's been a while since I posted. Things remain where they were in that I'm pretty much disengaged with my adult SSs 30 and 29, and DH does all the gift-buying and coordinating gatherings, with dinner at a restaurant for birthdays (we pay for all) and Father's Day and Christmas Eve hosted at our lakehouse, where I try to do the minimum amount possible, realizing my own DSs are part of the mix and it's their holiday, too. This mainly applies to SS30, his wife, and 2 SGDs.

My sister had been casually dating this guy, nice guy overall. Nothing serious. 

Apparently last week they decided to have dinner at his place after a day running around doing things together since his son (14) would be at his mom's and she had the day off.  Good plan, right?  

Well it's been about 2 weeks since the weekend from hell, well actually it was like a month long drama fest with SD and BM since Christmas. DH has not talked to SD15 since he sent her his last text saying he would not continue to go back and forth with her and hear her just blame him or me for basically everything . SD kept texting after that and she even accused me pretending to be DH and texting her because of course DH would never say such thing ! She really needs help, DH finally Had enough of years and years of horrible behavior.

More like runs for their life from one of Chef's ferals.  This time it is Pumpkinhead  OSD28 and his wife.   Indoor cat made a run for it.  Skids were always mean to animals and neglectful.   The Girhippo would give animals back to the shelter for jumping up on people at the drop of a hat.  Pet ownership was never taken seriously. 

SD26 had MANY  cats that ran away from her.  Frankly some people should NEVER have animals.   Chef's ferals should all be banned from having them. 

Havent been as active on here during the last week. Reason being is that about a week ago, I received very sad news that the law firm I have enjoyed working with for 10 years is ceasing operations along with the senior partner retiring. His retirement is very much deserved, so question about that. But business has gotten lackluster and was more of a decision based on that too. I guess the WHY doesnt matter since the situation remains the same. I am still needing to have to line up another job soon, having to start over and lots of changes are coming fast in this realm of my life. 

It is always fascinating to me the NEED BMs still think that they are relevant in people’s lives when it comes to social media. 

SOs friend’s sons birthday is today. His wife posted a happy birthday post wishing her kid a happy birthday. Said son and SD are 3 months apart. At one point back in time BM and SOs friends wife  were friends… makes sense… considering they also lived next door.. still do…