SS (almost 8) struggles with just about EVERYTHING... Thoughts?
So, SS7 (he'll be 8 in a matter of weeks) seems to be so far behind the curve that it's not even funny. He doesn't know how to tie his shoes, he cannot ride a bike, he can't pour his own breakfast cereal and milk without making a huge mess. He still uses baby talk and is often hard to understand. He can't say "twenty," but instead says "quinny." He can't say "corn," but says "torn" instead. We have workbooks that he is supposed to do to help him stay on track during the summer, so he doesn't forget everything in between the school years. He is supposed to be going into 3rd grade, but his teachers suggested he repeat kindergarten, so he's going into 2nd grade. Yet he cannot do basic math without crying and asking me about something like "What is 7-4? I don't know how to do it." He still doesn't know how to put his shoes on the right feet...
Speaking of crying, he does it EVERY SINGLE DAY. I mean not just cries but BAWLS... If he does something wrong and his father or I correct him, he booo-hooos, tears streaming down his face, and says that 1. "you're angry... you're going to be mad at me forever!" 2. "you're yelling at me..." 3. "you don't love me..." etc... I told H that instead of getting upset and reacting to his crying, he should tell him, "I don't understand baby talk or crying. When you get yourself together, come back and tell me what's on your mind." Talking with him, going back and forth about the fact that he's crying, etc... is just feeding the fire, IMO, and giving him exactly what he wants: All of the attention.
He does very little on his own. He has to be told to do everything (i.e. getting dressed, brushing teeth, etc...). I know that, in and of itself, isn't unusual, but all of these issues combined raise my concern. I made the mistake and Googled some of this stuff and stumbled on "dyspraxia." Anyone have experience with that?
I'm at the point where I have told H that I no longer want to be left alone with him because he has outright lied about things I have done or said. I have never and would never mistreat a child, but I'm no pushover and no kid is going to get away with murder on my watch. I have H's children a LOT while he travels (he's been gone since Monday, for instance), so it's impossible to disengage at all times. I'm just wondering is SS7's behavior indicative of a greater issue.