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What happened to me not being Welcoming????

ETexasMom's picture

I clearly remember the step kids getting pissy and turning down DH's invitation to come over on Easter because they didn't feel welcomed. Saying "others have implied it" meaning me of course. Now SS called this morning asking what the plan was for DH's birthday. I let it go to voicemail thank god!

No way I'm planning and paying for a dinner. I'm not "welcoming" enough for them so they can do their own thing and pay for it on their own! DH and I already have plans to get a hotel room on his birthday and spend it in my hometown which his children live near. The day after his birthday is my little sister's wedding shower so DH planned to go hang out with my BIL while me and my older sister go to the shower. Would have been perfect time for DH to plan to see his kids but I'm not going to mention that! Not my job to plan that for him anymore!!!! I'm leaving that all up to him and them now!

hereiam's picture

So, SS called YOU, asking what was the plan for your DH's birthday? You, the "unwelcoming one"? Haha, that's rich!

Ignore, ignore, ignore.

ETexasMom's picture

Yep! Guess they realized it wasn't a holiday so they can't act like jerks and run to BM's families house. And if they make plans with DH themselves they will actually have to spend the time planning it and pay for it! I'm betting it's the paying part that they don't like. LOL

I already told DH SS called and played him the voicemail and said I wasn't calling him back. DH is just as confused as I am that SS called me instead of DH.

NoWireCoatHangarsEVER's picture

what the ...................... :jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop: That is some nerve he has after the Easter disrespect to you.

godess-clueless's picture

I had to check out your blogs to make sure they weren't young children. Since they are adults, tell them you are planning a romantic night and they can make their own birthday plans at another time. If they are like most grown steps he will be lucky to get a card in the mail.

ETexasMom's picture

And now I'm getting text messages! I finally replied and said "you need to call to call your dad for plans". If I tell them our plan they will freak out not make their own plans and blame me sayinf I'm keeping them from their dad. I'm letting DH handle them!

Amcc13's picture

Yep you have done your job- told dad they called and told them to call their dad. Job done and no more for it.
Hope they are taking you and dh out for slap up meal on their dime after all the Easter crap!

ETexasMom's picture

It was so important that he called and text me yesterday yet here it us afternoon and he still hasn't called his dad. :?

ETexasMom's picture

I blocked them all on Facebook because that was how they usually contacted me so I guess I'll have to do the same on my phone. I sm completely confused why he is calling me instead of DH!

ETexasMom's picture

I blocked them all on Facebook because that was how they usually contacted me so I guess I'll have to do the same on my phone. I sm completely confused why he is calling me instead of DH!

hereiam's picture

Oh, it's not so confusing. They accept you at their convenience.

When they don't want to come over for something or have other plans, it's your fault because they feel unwelcome by you and they are the victims.

When they want to feel like they are being there for their dad but don't actually want to do the planning, paying, etc., you are suddenly the go to person and not so bad.

Screw that.

Pixiegardener's picture

Yep - you did good. Just have DH handle it. They are going to make you wrong no matter WHAT you do. It's that old "push/pull" - like you see in adolescense..."I hate you, can you drive me to the mall..." LOL