Not going on the visit.
Big step for me. The steps are on the "not mad at me cycle". You know the one where I'm invited to things and they expect me to show up and treat them like it's an honor to be graced with their presence. Well after the last two years of being left out of "family" at MSD's wedding, being told I couldn't come to Christmas so they could bond (everyone else's spouses were invited just not me) and the huge hissy fit they threw when DH went with me to OBS's military graduation, I'm done. After the Christmas fiasco I think they realized they pushed DH to far because they have been calmer. I was invited to birthday parties but was pretty much ignored.
MSD had her first baby right before Christmas. I went to the shower and was pretty much ignored. I made her personalized onesies and personalized gift bags (I have a machine to cut out vinyl and a heat press to make shirts). When her nieces and nephew were born MSD was all about buying them customized stuffed and at the shower acted like it was nothing and barely pulled them out of the bag. I've never seen a picture of him in any of the outfits.
Anyway MSD came home from hospital on Christmas eve and of course made plans with her in-law and BM's family and ignored DH till Christmas was over. She has been calling him weekly since asking when he was driving the two hours to see her and the baby. It was weird because DH is usually excited over the grandkids and the others went and saw them the same if not next day but this time he put it off. I keep asking when he is going and he keeps making excuses. I'm not sure if he is just tired of MSD or if it's because I told him I wouldn't go.
I honestly just can't handle them right now. DH and I have been in a really place and if I go I know she will say something rude or ignore me and then I will get mad at DH for not standing up for me. I'm already having some depression and confidence issues after being fired awhile back and having a hard time finding a new job. I just mentally don't think I can stand the abuse and MSD is the worse of the bunch. So for the first time I stood up and said I'm not going and for him to go alone. Usually I will say this then feel guilty and change my mind and go. DH left a little bit ago two hours later then he said he was going to leave. Not sure if he's dragging his feet hoping I would change my mind like usual or if he just didn't want to go alone. Guess we'll see how the visit goes.