Stepkids changed our Christmas plans
DH and I agreed that the we would always keep Christmas Day open for the kids. They could come and go as they want but they are supposed to come on Christmas Day. His kids never come. Their dad isn't important enough to come on Christmas day.
This year we decided to do a dinner because my sister is going through a divorce and having a hard time with her adult kids. Everyone is coming for dinner and have known for weeks. Only OSD responded she was coming. Then Friday DH announces that SS and OSGD is coming on Monday night and spending the night and part of Christmas Eve. I'm pissed! We had an agreement the kids would come Christmas Day only not pick and chose their days.
Christmas Eve was supposed to be my day to clean and relax. I have to work Monday and on top of that I'm on call till 8:30 Christmas Eve which means I could get called out and spend most the night working. I reminded DH of this and that if SS and SGD were over I won't be able to sleep or clean up since they seem to think I'm the babysitter while they hang out in the mancave. DH swears they will watch SGD. Dh gets really pissy when I keep reminding him we said only Christmas Eve.
Then today on Facebook MSD casually mentions that her, her husband, and 2 kids are now also coming on Christmas Eve. So the stepkids have basically decided to skip the family dinner and make sure they come over when they want instead of during our plans. I'm pissed! I told DH this was ridiculous! I was not going to have time to have the house ready for company by Tuesday. The last two nights I have been on call and got called out the majority of the night. I also do not want to do two holiday meals. I flat out told DH I was not cooking or cleaning for his kids on Christmas Eve.
DH is now all butt hurting trying to say he didn't go back on our agreement of Christmas Day only. He said "we're not changing our plans just because they are coming over the day before" and "I told them we're not even opening presents they can take them home". So basically his kids are coming for a gift grab and instead of getting a day off to relax I'll be stuck having them over and entertaining them and attempting to clean house and cook after they leave for the 20 people coming the next day. Oh and he has no idea what time they are coming over.
I'm so over Christmas!!!!