DH's "Ultimatum" for SD19 LOL
So, I read my letter to DH Saturday afternoon, I refused to go out with him that evening and just stayed home. Father's Day morning rolls around and DH is at the gym early with SD19. When he returned later he was really sulking. DH never sulks. I ignored it for the most part, as I was getting ready to go see my parents. Both of DH's parents are gone, so DH was going to take the SDs and visit the cemetery.
I finally asked DH if he wanted to talk, "You look like you have something you want to say, DH." Nope, and he was really down in the dumps. I continued getting ready to go out and asked again, "Did something happen this morning with SD19?" Nope.
I went out to see my parents and later on my ride home, DH starts texting me.
DH: SD19 said when she leaves for school she won't come back. I will abide by that decision and won't interfere. So if you can deal with one more week you can have your house back. Is that acceptable?
Moon: Actions speak louder than words. Even if she isn't in our home, she needs to get some help, like this week.
DH: Yes, I told her that and she agreed. She knows she needs help. I told her to pick a therapist and let me know where she is going.
First of all, it's MY decision to not ever have SD19 come back. She left last Tuesday all high and mighty and was back here Wednesday night. All because her friend couldn't fit in a twin bed with her. Wouldn't want SD19 to be uncomfortable. When I got home Sunday night, I spoke with DH and asked him what the hell SD19 was doing?! She's been sitting on her ass since Wednesday and still hasn't made a therapist appointment?! I told DH that this is a perfect example of her sitting around and doing NOTHING. IN MY HOUSE. DH told me that he was going to give her an ultimatum. That when he was gone she needed to call a therapist and set up an appointment for after July 4th when she is back at school.
Or else she wasn't welcome back here ever again. (Don't make me laugh too hard, DH.)
I was the first one to tell her she had to leave, in the midst of that awful fight. Then she left and came back the next day. Then she tells DH on Sunday that after this week she'll never return. DH "tells" her that if she doesn't make an appointment she will never be welcome in this house again. Oh I'm laughing so hard at these two fools it hurts! SHE'S GOING TO THE BEACH AND THEN TO SCHOOL! So she'll be getting out of here anyway! You're not doing me any favors, DH! Neither is SD19!
The true test will be the next time, when she wants to come home for a weekend in the fall. Nope. Not if I still live here. I don't know what we'll do for Thanksgiving. DH can take SD13 and go meet SD19 somewhere. Winter break?......I do remember SD19 yelling at me that she "has her OWN apartment that (she) pays for," so she doesn't have to clear out of school for holidays. I know that she'll still be crying to Daddeeeee that she needs to come see him.
I have a good mind to get a storage unit for SD19 and put all of her shit in there. Better yet, I could just box it up and put it in our basement. In her closet that she doesn't use. The only thing in there is the HHog. Less effort for me, but I need to clear through my stuff first. I am relieved that SD19 will be gone Friday. I'll stay with my mother July 4th, because there's no way in hell I'll be here on July 5th. That's the day after the SDs get back from the beach and DH has to help SD19 move back to school. I won't be here for that clusterfuck.
I keep eyeing this way too big rental home online. Ironically the ad posted the day SD19 came home from school. I drove by last Sunday on the way to my parents and checked it out, from the outside. Esp the backyard for the pups. I need to go clear out two dresser drawers since DH is gone. I need to continue working towards my goal. DH leaves late tonight and comes back on Wednesday night.
I will keep chanting my mantra, "Whatever you think, will be." I'm thinking of better days. Oh, and the SDs didn't even get DH one thing for Father's Day. I even asked SD13 if she needed help with ideas a few weeks ago. She said she and SD19 already had something figured out. Spoiled brats. So glad they followed through for their Dad.