Moved Out Yesterday
I had spoken to DH Thursday night and made arrangements to move out on Friday. SD13 and SD20 were gone for the day and DH told them not to return until he told them I was done. I worked a half day and then met my BFF at my house. I was excited and nervous and didn't know where to start with packing. I took all of my summer clothes and one piece of furniture when it was all said and done.
BFF and I were in the middle of taping up boxes and the bedroom door suddenly opened. DH was standing there, in the middle of the day when he should've been at work. My BFF is a man I've known since HS, and he and DH have never met. It became very awkward very fast. DH and I went downstairs and he kept saying how he needed to see me, how he had't seen me in a few days. I hadn't been home since Wednesday morning. He was saying all of the expected things, desperately trying to hold on to me. I told him that now was NOT the time to discuss the relationship! I told him I was exhausted and I needed to get packed and out. He asked how much I was taking? He asked if he could help? He said that no one would ever treat ME better than him and I think I threw up a little in the back of my mouth. Can't say I blame him for saying those things and for showing up at the house, but I needed to get him out ASAP.
Next, DH wanted to go upstairs and thank BFF for helping me move. Oh good Lord. Please just get the fuck out. He shook BFF's hand and BFF didn't say much. It was awkward. Before he left, DH kept asking if I wanted a divorce and I kept telling him I needed him to leave, that I needed to pack so I could have my space elsewhere. He then told me that he looked at the bank account and saw I was near the courthouse (parking garage receipt) and I said I had seen an attorney. He asked if I trusted him and then admitted that he moved all of the money out of our joint savings except for 3k. All of this money belonged to the SDs as I moved mine out months ago. He said that he had been down this road before, and BM had taken everything out of their joint accounts when she divorced him. He also stated that he saw I had transferred money to a different savings account. That's where my paychecks have been going, and I told him that, I had nothing to hide.
DH finally left and BFF and I finished packing in a few hours. I was so glad to get everything I needed out of there. I left a lot of winter clothes and books. I'll get that later. It will be easy. What wasn't easy yesterday was seeing those beautiful dogs of mine, so excited to see me. I kissed them all goodbye and cried a little, but I know they'll be ok for now. In six months or so when I get my place back, I can figure out if I want to take two of them or not.
Right now, I'm enjoying the peace and quiet and cleanliness. None of that is weighing in on me now. BFF and I are going to run errands today. He has been a lifesaver, I've know him since HS.
Today is OSD20's birthday. I'm out of the house, so I guess you could say she got her way. As always. Who cares? I'm happier for it already.