SD19 is LAZY
SD19 will be 20 in July. She is book smart, thank goodness, but she is LAZY. DH allows it. This is where our big struggle is.
Yesterday, I texted DH that I was leaving work and he said he TOOK SD19 to the doctor's (pediatrician) because she had a sore throat. All I texted back was "POLLEN." SD19 was told a long time ago by her doc that she should be on an allergy pill every day. She doesn't take them, and now that she's "of age" and mostly away at school, she does her own thing. Not that she would listen to anyone anyway. I mean, the skid had her braces removed in March of 9th grade and had one of those permanent retainers put in behind her lower teeth. It should have come out a year later, in spring 2011. DH has told her before to make an appointment, but four years later, she's a sophomore in college, and that thing is still in her mouth. Anyway, I digress.........
So, I get home and DH is at the pharmacy with Our Lady of the Rodents because she needs antibiotics for a sore throat (POLLEN), not strep though (see, DH?). I go upstairs and the hallway is HOT. AGAIN. Just like on Monday on my day off. I check SD19's old room/trash bin and the blinds are down, curtains closed....but she has done laundry. It's 6pm and it's hot upstairs from the dryer going. I have specifically told DH that the skids are to do their laundry EARLIER in the day so the house isn't a hotbox when we get home from work. W/D are on the top floor in the hallway, outside of the bedrooms.
Then DH and SD19 arrive home, and I hear SD19 whining to Daaaadddeeee, "Can I take a shower?" Um, SD19 has been told before that when she isn't working, to take her showers and do her laundry earlier in the day. This is because SD13 and I need to shower at night as well. I'm surprised SD19 even ASKED, but DH said she could wait until after dinner.
I went downstairs a few minutes later and didn't mention the laundry or the fact that her "old room" hadn't been picked up and all of her clothes moved to the basement bedroom and put away. Trying to stay disengaged while the house is a mess. OK, so maybe she was sick and didn't feel well, but even on a good day she thinks of no one but herself and when I speak up to get some kind of order in the house, I'm the bad guy. I sat at the table with DH and the SDs were there in the kitchen. I said to DH, "So now there's THREE people that need to shower tonight?" I was implying that SD19 had BEEN SITTING ON HER ASS for the past week and that she shouldn't be getting in the shower at 6pm at night. There just isn't time for all of us to shower in the evening. SD19 isn't working because "they haven't called her." It's never SD19's fault....SD13 will go into the bathroom to get ready to shower and then play on her iPod Touch or do whatever it is she does, and the water doesn't come on for 20 minutes. I usually have to tell her to move it. Anyway.....
I ask DH "What are we supposed to do now, draw straws?" He looked at me with a big, cheery grin (FULL of Kool-Aid) in front of SD19 and said, "Well, you figure it out." I said right back to him in front of SD19, "No, this needs to come from YOU. It's not that we'll run out of hot water, it's the timing. Three people need to shower." Again, trying to insinuate that Our Lady of the Rodents who sits around all day DOING ZERO should not be getting into the shower at night. She should be done and out of my way, because HEY! She shouldn't even BE in my house now, right? But I covered that in my other blogs.....
SD19 surprisingly offered to shower at the house where she is pet sitting!! Thank goodness! I was ready for her to get her bitch on and slam me like she usually does when she doesn't get her way. I walked right into the lion's den, ready for battle and thank goodness she did the right thing.
I didn't say a word about the dryer running and making the upstairs hot and I didn't say a word about SD19 not having done a thing to clean up her old room. I was quiet and I'm waiting to see what happens. See, it's little things like this that usually disrupt the household, because SD19 is on her own schedule and does her own thing. I have very little time to unwind in the evening, shower and get ready for the alarm to go off at 430am again.
Only 29 days until she leaves for the beach. Should I still stay disengaged and go through a delusional DH the next time this shit starts? Because it will. Should I speak up and teach SD19 that other people need to co-exist with her in the house while she's here? Then she'll cry bloody murder at me and we all know how THAT goes. She is so damn irritating! At least she did the right thing last night with the shower issue, because I wasn't going to have it.