I need some advice from this group - Senior Night
As a follow up to my last post, there has been zero contact from BM after the Cease & Desist letter was sent. Fingers crossed everything stays this way.
Here is my dilemma – last week SD17 asked me and her dad if we would walk with her at Senior night. She is part of the varsity athletics program as a Trainer and they are recognized along with the athletes. DH had let me know this invitation was coming so I could process it and decide how to respond. Of course, he wants me to attend and be honored she asked us.
If you have read my past posts, I am not involved with SD17’s life outside of our home. This practice has significantly reduced the BM drama (not completely though). For years, I have refused to attend any school events where BM would be in attendance due to her behavior the last time we were both present at a choir concert for SD.
I asked SD if her mom would be there and she assured me that she would be on the other side of the stadium and there would be no contact. I asked how BM would respond to us walking her instead of mom and she indicated she would be furious. I told her about BM emailing my company and that I am hesitant to be in the same area but would talk it over with her dad. She had no idea her mother had done that and to her credit was mortified it happened. Normally we don’t talk to her about this stuff with her mom; I was having a terrible day and made a snap decision. I still think she is old enough to know some of what goes on.
Through discussions between DH and SD, the decision has been made that her best friend will walk with her and no parents. We feel like that is a good compromise but according to SD, BM is very unhappy with this choice. My question I am struggling with is…. Do I even need to go and be there? Is it an invitation for BM drama? I sincerely do not want to go but am getting pressure from DH since she asked me directly and she has been almost pleasant to be around lately.
What does the group think – would you go?