I've been married to my DH for 2 years. 2 weeks after we got married, the BM took my DH to court to raise CS. My DH came home with his son, whom the BM said in court, she didn't want custody anymore. So I became an instant, overnight, full-time SM without any discussion or heads up! My SS came to live with us with literally the clothes on his back. Most of his life have been spent with an autistic uncle, playing video games and watching TV. Major behavior issues that still have not been corrected.